I've been taking care of my father who is 90 years old. And he's been living with us now for about 9 months. I am 60 and my husband is 63. We are very tired and we have been met with resistance from family members that I don't even know. I have been estranged from my father and his family for about 35 years. At the prompting of my husband, I reunited with my dad about 10 years back. He was healthy then but two years ago he lost his wife and I think that hastened on dad's dementia. So my husband and I felt bad for him because he was not in a good situation with relatives. They were not feeding him and they were not keeping up his bills and they were not taking care of his grooming, and taking money from him monthly. During Christmas of 2014 we decided to bring my father down to live with us in Virginia. Since then it has been constant calling from his brother, his sisters, his niece. This niece actually turned us in to social services saying that we were holding my father captive and taking his money. All of this because we weren't able to attend two funerals that were one month after the next. The funerals were all the way back in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania that is an 8 to 10 hour drive from us. My father can't make a two hour drive without becoming paranoid and irrational. We are already tired and just cannot make those kinds of drives with basically a tantrum-throwing 6 ft man. They've offered no help, just criticism. I don't even know these people and haven't even seen this so-called cousin of mine for over 35 years. I believe it has to do with the control of my father's money is accumulated a bit. & I think they're angry and upset that he chose to live with us. So I just don't know what to do with this point. We are looking at a home that is local. It is extremely nice very professional it is run by Methodist it is clean and very well ordered and most of all inexpensive. But they have talked my father into moving all the way back to Pittsburgh Pennsylvania. And my father is not really capable of making that kind of a major decision. I know they won't take care of him because they did not take care of him before and he is even worse now than he was back then. I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. And it feels like my husband and I are completely alone in this. And I have to really thank this website because I have come on here several times to be able to vent. Sometimes that's all you need.