If you can get yourself one I highly recommend it. It has really helped accelerate my recovery from neck surgery. If you can get your MD to write a px, or guilt a gift certificate from your deadbeat siblings, go to school for massage students, anyway you can do it, do it! Get at least an hour one. And if you think you can't leave your loved one alone for just 1 hour this might be a way to evaluate if they need to go to Al or NH. This job can't be done by one person 24/7 because you will wear out, it will just be a matter of time.If you can't take just 1 hour for yourself then you need to reevaluate your living situation.It has helped me reevaluate my situation with my mother for the better.Even nurses at the Al or NH get about an hour for lunch.