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It's the place, down the block, where Mom stayed for rehab. We saw it on the local news this morning, and now it's on TMZ! Mom will NOT be going back there EVER! LOL

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what poor taste, how vulgar and ridiculous
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....to bad she not go back.... kind of sad....
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It's a difficult question to answer, I think. It may have been "voted on" by a committee of residents, but we need to take into account those with cognitive disabilities. As a hospice Medical Social Worker, I spend a good portion of my time visiting patients in SNF's-most of which have Alzheimer's or other forms of dementia. Their altered reality can be very frightening for them.
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Never been to a strip club myself - not the sort of entertainment I'd intentionally seek out, but if I was invited by a good friend or two, or even my daughter and DIL (because we share that kind of relationship) I think I'd go...why not?...especially if they were paying the cover price. Don't believe I'd go so far as to start stuffing dollar bills down some guy's underwear, but hey...get a few drinks in me and all bets could be off!
I don't really see the harm in it as long as the residents of the NH in attendance were there by choice, and aware of the kind of entertainment they had come to see....and the entertainer (per se) had the respect, decency, and presence of mind to not go "full Monty". I can only hope that when I reach my 80's-90's (God willing) I still have as much spunk and joie de vie as the groom's grandma in Pam's story!
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When I can't enjoy a stripper, pull the plug.
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My MIL would pretend to be shocked and horrified. And the "victim" claims of "I was forced to do it" is the oldest playground excuse in the world. She's just embarrassed that her family saw it on youtube.
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I'm 70 and think it sounds like fun. My MIL is 97 and would be horrified, shocked, and probably traumatized. Why not just put a post-it note on the doors of those who would enjoy it? I am more concerned about men with dementia who are allowed to wander the halls sexually attacking female residents.
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Although it isn't entertainment that I would choose, this man was not nude. I am thinking that some of you did not read the article. Consider that the patients had probably been to this type of entertainment and enjoy it.
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totally trashy and immoral
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Boni,
If you like this NH for other reasons, consider they are very unlikely to make this mistake again.
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lol, pam. every young person in the world seems to think they invented sex. its just not true. older people may have reduced drive but im betting theyre not short in the " kink " department..
i still find strippers tacky and would be uninterested in one. a self respecting person turns me on. once at an al cooper concert an older , clearly professional man and wife walked by where i was sitting. the woman was a doll, bout 60 ish . somehow the grace and humility of her very posture was a thing of beauty. this gal was downplaying how freaking hot looking she was.. i like that..
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My 95 yo mother is in a NH. I read the original article and the patients voted for this entertainment. No one was forced to go. People just stay in their room, if they don't want to go to the activity. Plus, all are free to leave, if it was offensive. Not all NH floors are full of people that can't make a decision.
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My sister in law was taken to a male strip bar a few nights before her wedding, with the groom's mother and grandmother in attendance. I was so embarrassed, there was a lot of hootin n hollerin coming from the audience. I turned around to see who the loudest woman was. It was the groom's very old grandmother. "I'll show him a thing or two" she boasted.
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actually id find strippers of either sex rather tacky. the old guy i mentioned earlier was just being a nut. he was in no way seriously interested in the younger nurse.
a 90 yr old guy at ednas facility told us the other day that edna was a good looking old gal. they are both nearly deaf so im trying to imagine how loud their foreplay chatter would be. man, living inside my mind is a disturbing existance..
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I have just found the picture of the old lady putting the money in the strippers unerpand. His pose is relaxed and apart from being in his underware is not taking a suggestive stance .She is leaning forward to place the money. Her body language tells me she is in no way fearfull or intimidated.If she was disgusted she would be cringing. Her family may have dollar signs on their minds but Medicaid will also be watching closely. Her testimony can hardly be believed if she has dementia. According to the article this kind of entertainment has been provided several times in the past.
Boni you had better talk to Mom, a visit from the nuns may be in order. Hugs
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I used to play music in that facility as my job is entertainment for the elderly at nursing homes and assisted living places. I know on Father's Day they have a belly dancer. As far as this goes I don't think they "forced" the lady to put the money down and actually she had a smile on her face. Seems her family has dollar signs on their mind 😳
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LOL! I did see this last night. One resident said she was very distrubed by it and was forced to put $$ in the strippers undies. I guess I join the group of being a prude...if it was for a differnt setting it would be ok but a NH? Idk
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They just covered this story on "the talk". Not ONCE was dementia mentioned, and they all thought it was "cute and funny". I'm really annoyed by this. This is the place we HAD planned on taking Mom, when it becomes necessary.
A person with dementia can NOT consent to something they don't understand.
I might need to write a letter to Julie Chen and educate her.
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Sorry, didn't see any comments at the end of the article and thought my comment might have offended. No problem.
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I think it depends on the patient. If a person was a religious person who did their best to be a good Christian, this would have compromised them in their minds - if they didn't have dementia. If a person has always been "naughty" and flirted a lot, made suggestive jokes most of their lives, this would be a great place to live.

Assandy, I guess I'm a prude, too. That poor woman - peer pressure even at that age! When my family starts talking crass sexual jokes, I usually get up and leave the room.
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Ha! I sound like such a prude compared to everyone else here on AC!! I know my Mom well and at 91 she would not find a stripper fun... She'd be afraid the "Nuns" would come back to discipline her..LOL
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HAAA!! I think THIS is a NH my mom would willingly run to. :/ She is the biggest flirt/suggestive old lady I've ever known. Every time she remembers she has Alzhemier's, she says... "I'd better have some d**n fun before I forget"!! Truth be told.... she's already forgot. She flirts with her son's, brother and h**l, strangers if she can! First time in my oldest brothers 59 years that he's blushed!! (mom suggested they "nap" together)". .... so yeah, my mom would love a place like that. Not long in the near future mom is going to start "daycare"... one of the things I've redirected with is... lots of fun men. (crossing my fingers that there is some)!
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lol, i have a cyber friend in colorado whos father lived to a very old age. he was a nut. hed smack one particular nurse on the behind and shed present it for him. i dont think her behind was damaged in any way and furthermore she wasnt being promiscuous, she just loved to make the old fellow laugh. it was all in fun damnt. gosh, lighten up fundamentalist " phony christian " usa..
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What's the address Boni? How long is their waiting list? I want a bed!
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I would be totally appalled if the staff did it to mock the residents.

I can however recall my dad"s favvorite Birthday, about 70 or so, when mom hired him a belly dancer, his brothers in law, friends and neighbors who were mostly in their 80s really enjoyed the show. When the dancer left, mom asked dad, do you want the same thing for next year, he responded what are you trying to kill me?

If it made residents laugh or recall a good time, go for it! I do confess I LOL,
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LOL..I did mean the comments on the article!! I know all us friends here on AC know what we're up against dealing with the inexperienced caregivers..It's sounds comical to the readers but would be frightening to a dementia patient and extremely embarrassing..

What was that NH thinking?
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I need to say that when I first started out in nursing over 42+ years ago, I recall a patient I had at a V.A. hospital who had suffered a stroke. He never spoke all the time I worked there. I had him as a patient several times. Now the picture of me is a recent one so picture me 42+ years ago-
I was caring for this man, talking to him all the time & he moved his hand up & grabbed my breast. I was so thrilled that this was the first time he had moved in months & he smiled after nothing but a flat affect (no expression).
All I can speak of is my experience. I made sure I visited him from that day on when in the V.A. He eventually was discharged to home & did get into physical therapy also. A success because I did not freak out as he reached for my breast. What ever works.
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Far out-I think it is WONDERFUL...& I am an R.N.-what ever works....
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Not at all Geo. I'm sure she meant the comments on the article.
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