Anyone else feel that they are losing brain cells because of caregiving?

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About 3 years ago this subject was posted on the forum by another writer, and I though I bring back this issue, and start with a clean slate.

For me, I though I was losing brain cells while helping out my very elderly parents who decided that living by themselves, while being in their 90's, was the best thing ever.... NOT. All the sleepless nights I had.... the panic when I saw their caller ID on the phone.... Mom shooing out caregivers.... and driving by my parent's house [lived in same neighborhood] and seeing Dad up on a ladder cleaning the gutters.... YIKES !!

Since my parents hadn't passed that long ago, my brain hasn't recovered. I know this is just probably age related forgetfulness being I am now 70. I had dove into every article and book about dementia, and overloaded myself with info so I could react to my parents should they had gottten dementia. So now the tiniest thing when I can't think of something, I think oh great, I never got to enjoy my retirement, now THIS???

Anyone else going through this?

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I haven’t been this involved in caretaking for very long but I’ve noticed that after spending extended time with my parents I can’t seem to patch a simple coherent thought together for a few days after escape to my home. But I am emotionally drained and physically exhausted so that’s two big factors.
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...junkyard dog!
Still smiling at that!
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((((((Windy))))) Well, we know one thing - they have lost brain cells. Seriously, you should write a book. I was going to go back to sleep this morning, as is my custom when I wake at 4 am, then I read your post and have been grinning like a fool ever since. What a ride!!! Your dad is having adventures. Glad they caught the UTI. Can you imagine how your mum, just post a fall, would have dealt with that? Mother's NH has a "happy hour" every day, I believe. Seems to be a new thing. No cheese and only one drink allowed. One day I might have it.
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Thanks Golden and Stacey. Prison report:

Dad went crazy town on staff Saturday morning. Going to find his car, hitting and kicking. Off to phys eval in the ems bus. Hospital found raging UTI and started meds. Warden reports that things are back under control but I’m afraid he’s destined for the memory care unit pretty soon. It’s in the same facility.

My nephew was visiting the folks yesterday and called me on his iPhone so I could say hi to folks. Mom very curt and frosty with me. Ok, fine. My giveadamn is turned waaay down low. 

Dad thought he was in a ski resort. Said the prices in the restaurant were outrageous. Bunch a ol boys stole all the cars in the parking lot and wrecked Em all down in the holler. (Hillbilly term for valley)
Clearly delusional but seemed calm so fine, we’ll go with ski resort.

Did I mention this prison has a cocktail hour? Oh yeah. Each Friday apparently. The inmates are rounded up to the activities room for wine and cheese before dinner. Mom didn’t like the white stuff but the pinkish stuff was pretty good!? These guys bought a bottle of cheap champagne once in 1974 I think.

Such is life in the joint.
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LOL!!! Thanks for all the laughs this Christmas morning!! Felt my brain cells get stimulated some!!
"meaner than a junkyard dog", LOVE IT!! I'm the same way...miss the old me.

Looking for more laughs today ❤️
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Brain? What's a brain again? I forgot.
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I Lost my Brain in the final year of caring for my FIL, he passed away in September this year, and it's still not completely back. I find I cannot grasp words in a sentence, or remember names, it's so frustrating!!! Even my husband notices, and he is faithfully there, retrieving those words from out of the air, sparing me the embarrassment, kind of! Thank God he knows me so well! Though even he is concerned!

I'm glad that the days of every conversation revolving around my FIL are behind us, but it is taking a long time to find our new normal! Hopefully my brain will return eventually!!! Good luck to you all in the same boat!

Windyridge, so incredibly happy that you have gotten your folks into Assisted Living! I really hope this works out for you, and that you find your parental workload lessened!!! Merry Christmas Buddy!!!!
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Bella, Y e a h ! Absolutely know. Good question posed. 
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bella - so so glad dad is back in AL Yay!!!!!!

cdn reader -Oh yeah!!! I walked around the house the other day looking for the handset for the living room phone while talking to my dd on it.

CTTN55 - I really wonder about that too. When I told a grandson that you could play solitaire with REAL cards, he was amazed and thought that was COOL!

windy - you deserve a medal. It's prison now is it? I guess you should have left her bleeding on the floor. It would have stopped eventually! How horrible of you to get them regular meals, a safe environment, medical care, social activities... and also deal with all their business too. Mother wouldn't speak to me for well over 6 months after I precipitated getting her into a geri psych hospital where she got the help she needed. It was a relief.

ff - LOL let us know if it helps~
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Ok spinach here I come... out of the way, Popeye !!
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