How do you help them handle the situation ? I feel as if Ive dragged my children into a nightmare. For most of their lives it was just the 4 of us. We struggled financially, had our share of arguments but we were always happy. Now that we have moved in with my father, their lives have been filled with drama. My siblings asked me to move in. However my father sees it as me and my children being dumped on him. He has treated my oldest child horribly. His HHA is jealous of us living in the house so she also tries to make us uncomfortable. She wants the run of the place during her work hours. If the children have company, she complains that their guests were rude to her. How am I supposed to help my children cope ? They are very unhappy. There is constant arguing. Not to mention my father treating my sister like the Queen and me her lowly servant. I feel like I give much more time to my father and his drama than to my own children. My father does not even need a whole lot of care. He mainly has a HHA for companionship and meal preparation.