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There have been so many losses on AgingCare lately...Since the loss of your loved one,How are you getting through your days?Moving foreward?Coping?What is helping you?Not helping you?How are you surviving without your dear loved one?

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This is only his 2nd week with dialysis. The left arm is so swollen where the fistula is he cant clean up or shave so he doesnt want to go. If its going to be this big of a problem every other day i dont know if its worth it. And i dont know how long before the dialysis takes to make him feel better but hes not feeling good at all. They have been taking over a liter and a half of fluid each time he goes but it doesnt make him feel all that better. And why fight a fight that just isnt doing anything to make him feel like he use to. He spent all those years taking care of my mom and not himself i think its too late. Can it be too late for dialysis to work? I need to talk to the doctor at the clinic.
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Dcuman, I am so sorry for your loss. It happens often that a spouse will pass soon after the other. My mom was about 7-8 months after stepdad. She had dementia, probably did not understand that he was gone, but felt something wasn't right.
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Hugs, Dcurnan, I'm so sorry. Letting go is so hard, even when you know it's time. I felt that way when I lost my grandpa to kidney failure and CHF. I wanted them to do everything possible to keep him alive, but his body just gave out at the end. I wasn't ready for him to leave, but I know he was tired. Can you talk to your dad's docs and see if they feel like the dialysis is still helping him?
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I lost my dad 5 years ago, my mom about 2 years and my husband 4 months ago. Sometimes it’s hard to put one foot in front of the other. I’m going back to work 10/1. I hope that getting out and going to work will give me a bit more focus in my life. It’s all hard.
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Im so scared and im in a panic of sorts. I think its a little late. He was always so busy taking care of my mom that he didnt take care of himself and now that shes gone i think he wants to go too.
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Aw, Dcurnan, that's so tough, I'm sorry for your loss and the difficult time of seeing your father declining. (((((Hugs))))) to you and your dad.
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I lost my mom on september 6th. I still cant believe shes gone. Ive been trying my hardest to keep my father alive and its just not working. Hes given up. He wants to be with her. They were married 62 years on the 15th of september. I think its time for me to just accept it. I just dont know how. I wish i could, but i dont want to lose him too. Hes so tired and he looks so gray. I dont think the dialysis that im forcing him to go to is even working. Please help me to let go. I just dont want him to go too.
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One day at a time.
It will get easier, and you won't need to forget your loved one for the pain to lessen.
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2 and a half years now without Mother here beside me and I still feel so lost and broken hearted.I'm so grateful for the extra time I did have with her though.Just a half of an inch and I'd have lost her 9 and a half years before I did.I was so lucky.
Mom wasn't the "norm" at all and she was funny and fun to be around.Same as my Dad.I miss them both so much
Thanks to all of you who have been there for me,it's meant the world~
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NYC so sorry for your loss. I've had so many dreams of my Mom since she died three years ago. Some good, some bad, some I wake up crying from.

It does get better and then a memory will trigger something and it gets bad again but you will get through it. The silliest thing can make me cry. For instance, I was grocery shopping the other day and was looking at some green leaf lettuce which was one my Mom always asked me to pick up for her every week when I got her groceries. Ridiculous............standing crying over the lettuce aisle.

Good Luck with your grieving. Come here often, it does help.
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