Facilities will tell you that incontinent is a few drops. I say its when you don't have feeling or control.
Mom is 93 and has feeling and control, bowel and bladder. If she is toileted before and after meals, she is largely clean and dry. When it goes longer, she is not. Facility likes to say she is incontinent, but she became that way when she was dependent on staff to toilet on their timing, and it often goes too long, she waits, or is left alone too long because she is quiet in room and no one is interacting with her. Not using a call light, so she cannot ask. She has dementia of some sort, but I say she is continent if she is attended to properly. This is a problem I have not yet ironed out with management. Individual CNA's toilet her properly and she remains dry.