I'm having issues now with trying to help my cousin take care of my grandmother. Work hours have changed to working 6 days a week and I love the overtime, but my fiance and I are getting married in two weeks.
Im also mad because her doctor f**ked up the paperwork to try to get her into a nursing home, so now I have to waste my time going BACK to the d*mn doctor AND I JUST DONT HAVE TIME. nobody else in the family can do it either cause nobody f**king drives. Everyday I get phonecalls with sh*t I need to do, bit when am I suppose to do it?? My fiance doesn't want me to take time off from work (and neither do I to be honest) and all my freetime is wedding planning amd sleeping
I can understand that this is rough for all of us, but for me to be the middle man with some of these issues isn't cool. Especially when my voice mail has to be open and available for those to call me about wedding details... *sigh*
Taking care of elders involves some sacrifice. I doesn't seem unreasonable to me for you to take a couple weeks off before your wedding and let others pick up on the sacrifice role.
But also keep in mind that other people's needs don't follow convenient schedules. Your spouse may become ill and need your help at a peak time in your work schedule. You may break your leg and need all kinds of being driven around when it is most inconvenient for your spouse. If you have children, count on their milestone activities conflicting with something important in another part of your life.
I hope you can take a few weeks off from caregiving at this time. I also hope that you can take future disruptions to your preferred schedule in stride.