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Mom's still singing in her sleep....ooooo, lalala, yodeling. Sometimes almost crying. The Lorazapam worked last night so I got a good night's sleep -- and so did she. Lightly snoring. It sounded good. This morning she's back at it.

The doctor and hospice nurse told me it was a symptom of anxiety. I'm not sure I buy that. If I thought mom was REALLY crying, though, it would break my heart. I don't think it's that.

But what I do think it is? A cry for help. Know how a baby cries when it's needs aren't being met? Well, I think vocalizing by someone who is dying may be their autonomous way of letting others know they're still alive...to help them if we can. Not something they consciously do, but something we're genetically programmed to do.

I knew it wouldn't take long to break my heart...

Please, dear Lord, take her. It's sooo hard.

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My heart goes out to you and your mother. I will be praying for you
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? singing ?
delerium . an old friend of mine tried to save her dying dad from pneumonia . years later a doc friend of her told her that pneumonia , starvation or dehydration all produced a delirium and were as close to a peaceful death as one could have .
delerium is madness but by its own definition a place of bliss ..
ive seen my mom delerious at times over the years , once immediately after dad died . her delerium ? mania was caused by BP at the time . it will leave you scratching your head at least . its behavior not generally associated with the circumstances .
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I cared for my mom for 8 years and buried her yesterday. My mother was injured in a nursing home after being there just two weeks. She walked, talked, fed herself, and could pretty much care for her personal needs. My panic and anxiety went through the roof so I had to admit her to be cared for.

Mom never made sounds like you are referring to other than in the hospital after her fall and brain hemorrhages but it was more moaning than singing. I do not know how you feel about losing her, but you may want to check with hospice for help. They are in home or hospital or nursing home. If your Mom is in pain they will at least keep her comfortable.
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I believe there is a transition we must all make if we don't pass quickly. She may very well have been taking her final exams and making her peace with God during this time.
In hopes that we all pass that final test. :)
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Deja, this post was put up a day or two before she passed. Don't blame you for being confused. Thank you for your kind words.
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Maggie, I'm a little (okay, a lot) confused. Your profile page has several condolences for your mother's passing, but these messages indicate she is still alive? In any case---whether she is with God or moving closer to that day--prayers & blessings go out to you.
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I have no words of wisdom to add to the good information above, Maggie, but I WILL add my prayers for you and your Mom. You know, over the years I've heard from multiple pastors that when we're getting ready to go home to God He calls us by the special name, known only to God and us, that he has had for each one of us since we were in our mother's womb. Perhaps your Mom is hearing Him and answering. Regardless of when her time is, I know God hears her voice as well as your prayers and ours. Angels watch over you both! Lolli
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Hospice is also wonderful in helping the family learn to deal with all of this. God bless you. Good advice PattyDay.
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Our hearts go out to you captain. It is so hard to watch someone decline mentally and physically. And it is hard for her too to be in a place she can't understand or verbalize. As a retired hospice nurse, I would talk to her doctor about using the lorazepam on a regular basis to keep her calmer - not to knock her out but to let her calm down and rest from the wanderings of her mind that could be causing her distress. The outward behavior of crying could be an indication of pain - physical, mental or spiritual the the lorazepam could calm that for her.
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I will add my prayers too
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If your mom is in Hospice, they should be covering everything for her needs.
Please enjoy what you can & cry when you need & FEEL.

All things & people must pass.....Bless you & your mom.
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Maggie praying for you and mom and sending hugs.
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It certainly is very tough. My aunt would call out my cousin's name all day and night. This went on for approx. 6 months before she passed, but in that time it drove my cousin completely dotty. How hard this is on the carer and how resilient the human race. Take care of you too.
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when my mom came home from hospital with the dementia dx and hospice in tow we were warned by a doc that as the brain " dies " from the front around both sides ANYTHING can happen . he used even wild sexual urges as an example . my mom had a lot of sobbing fits from existing bipolar but even during days of vivid hallucinations she never seemed to be in what id consider mortal distress . there seemed to be more of an alooftness instead . it was still unnerving as h*ll and closer to insanity than i ever wanted to travel so i understand your pain maggie . i was glad to see it end for her too . her qol had diminished to zilch as her digestive system even rejected food -- what had been one of her few enjoyments . a year later im still realizing the impact the entire 6 years has had on myself . the social isolation has affected my ability to maintain healthy relationships -- even casual business contacts .. when your used to crazy , normal seems suspicious at best .
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Maybe she is in happy place in her dream. Do not assume the worst, this disease may be harder on the caregiver than the patient.
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Hospice can come to your house too. They don't have to be in a Hospice house.
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Is she in Hospice? Hospice does not let the person suffer. They take care of the patient's needs, especially pain!
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Maggie,
If I were a magic fairy, I would grant your wish. We are in the same position, except my mother is in Assisted Living. It is very hard seeing the changes every few days. I can only imagine what it is like 24/7. Please make sure you take "me" time.
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