I’ve posted here before, mostly asking for advice on how to balance graduate school and caring for my mother. This Monday, I had a very important graduate exam. In 1.5 hours, I went from a promising PhD student to being asked to leave with a masters in the next month.
My advisor knew I wasn’t prepared for this exam, because I was spending so much time taking care of my mother. The department forced me to take the exam. I failed.
I thought the benefit of grad school was that I could work from home while taking care of my bedridden mother. An 80 hour week, but I could survive.
Now, I have either get a 9-5 job or give up vital years on my resume to take care of mom.
Tonight, I started crying about how unfair it was that I was kicked out of my PhD program, (I have two months to fill out masters paperwork). Three minutes in to the first time I expressed how ashamed I was about what happened, mom started crying. It became all about “how hard it is to hear how much pain my daughter is in. I can’t handle it.” How do I deal with taking care of a narcissistic woman and get a job?
I hope this shall become a forum for emotionally abused higher education pursuers, or anyone near that. I’d appreciate any stories or advice anyone is willing to share.