I'm trying to be patient and understanding, but for the umpteenth time I accused of stealing from my mom!!! You stole my money, you stole my pants, you stole my phone book, you stole my address book, you stole my POA, you stole my will....
She lives alone, and has no contact with anyone but me. I live long distance so visit infrequently. She constantly hides or misplaces things so not surprising and then every time we talk she asks me where her stuff is.
Today we had a long pleasant conversation and she was with it. 2 hrs later she called me twice accusing me of taking the will. She is the only one with copies and will not put them in her bank box, nor share a copy with us. She hasn't spoken to my brother in 3 yrs, my aunt in 8 and has called both of them to tell them I stole the will.
This afternoon she is obsessed she must have it and for me to return it. I explained that I didn't have it and would never take anything from the house. All true. She said "well no ones been here but you"...HELL YES IM THE ONLY ONE WHOS BEEN IN the HOUSE FOR THE LAST 3 YEARS!!!! IM THE ONLY ONE WHO EVEN GIVES A FLIP ABOUT YOU!! YOUVE DRIVEN EVERYONE WHO EVER CARED ABOUT YOU AWAY!!! I didn't say it...but god help me I wanted to.
I tried to tell her and explain where it might be but she claims it's missing but she has her POA and advance medical directive (she keeps it in all the same folder). How do I know that?? Because when we visit and discuss anything about her wishes she finds it and waves it in our face But won't show us what's in it.
She said she called the lawyer and is having a new one drawn up -- the same f'd up lawyer that has been no help in the past and drew up a springing POA for 90 yr olds.... Last will he wrote and charged them $700 for had their name spelled wrong and took 3 times to get it right. Ha and I was asked to call the lawyer back then to make sure he got it right.
Can't wait to call my brother with this one...
I know this is small stuff, and it's the disease...but good golly, how much crap do we have to keep taking. I'm heading up next wk to try to give her some Christmas! but she makes it hard. I know she will keep hounding on this.
No need to comment. Just had to get this one off my chest. I know you guys out there deal with it and so much more everyday as full time caregivers and I just wanted to tell you what saints you are...this is absolutely nothing compared to all you deal with daily. Just know you are in my thoughts everyday. And this site humbles me to know how easy I have it.
I'm steeling myself for another crappy holiday, worrying about mom, waiting for the next shoe to drop. Trying to put on a good face for my husband and kids.