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Not too long ago, I posted about my mother and her month long meltdown. On the 27th, she did have a suicide attempt and she was taken to the hospital where she remains. For quite a while, she was really aggressive with the staff and had to be sedated and put in restraints. With the medication she tried to OD on, it sticks around for a while and they couldn't do a lot in terms of assessment but did find that she had a kidney infection. But she did have a scan and they did the question test and she scored 17 out of 30. So now my mom has been diagnosed with dementia at 69. My dad and I are in shock but not really. My dad is waiting on the social worker to help us find services but I told my dad that maybe adult daycare would be a start for keeping her engaged. I know my dad wants to keep mom home as long as he can but I am not so sure that it would be a wise idea.

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I don’t have any words of advice. I just wanted to say I’m so very sorry.
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It'll take a while to get her meds dialed in.
Things will look much better then.
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I'm glad that there is now a diagnosis but sad that you are now part of this club that no one wants to be a member of.

Your Dad needs to now make sure all legal ducks for their finances and protections are in a row. Your Mom is young and paid care is expensive.

You are in a good position to help educate him on her diagnosis so that he can learn how to have more productive and peaceful interactions with your Mom.

If your parents were church goers, see if any local churches have an Elder Care Ministry. Our church does, and we have a roster of elders that we take turns visiting.

Your parents' local Area Agency on Aging has lots of resources and are usually very helpful. You/your Dad can go to their website and check it out.

When your Dad is feeling overwhelmed by her care, he can consider hiring in-home aids. He should look in advance for facilities that accept Medicaid.

I wish you 3 peace in your hearts on this journey.
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Elder, so sorry, this is horribly hard, and mom is so young. Id say you need to educate yourself on the future of dementia and then sit down with Dad and your family and weigh your options .

When I started taking care of my 84 year old mom, I didn't think of the future, all I thought was how to make moms life better, now , not 4 years later. Then the years start ticking by, and you lose year after year of your life to caregiving. You wake up one day, and realize, where did the last 4 years go?? So far on Year 5 but , no longer the only one doing for mom anymore.

If I new then, what I know now!! Things would of been different

So sorry this is happening to you and your family, 69 is so young.
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