Its been a while since I have been on this site. Since the last time my mom has been in the hospital a few times with bladder infections, weakness, and a high white blood count and a stage 4 pressure ulcer and general issues and she is a trooper I must say. I was talking to a family member about my mom who does not live in our state! about I need some respite and they advised me that I should stick it out because she is close to the end and I might regret taking any time for me! which I need to address my own health issues! HOW DARE THEY SAY THAT TO ME. I am the only one who wears all the hats in this house I have a few friends and neighbors that offer but you know how that can be. My mom is 96 years and has dementia hearing aids uses a walker ostomy bag and she is tired but only the lord can call her home she is trying to not walk much and that is going to be a problem for me we have a wheelchair since her last hospital stay but its a loaner have to return bu the months end. She does not want to do much but sleep late in the day she is eating and taking her meds.. She scares me sometimes because it just might be closer to the end but I need to get me some respite I am tired burnout and need this for me. Should I continue to set up my respite for next month or what there are issues on how to get her to the place and return home since we iive in a apt bldg and there is no elevator yes thats right no elevator. What to do I just found a real doctor who came to seemy mom this week thats what they do see people who cant get to the clinic and it went well I will have to get more info for me setting up my respite she is going to modify my moms meds thinks she is taking to many of the same thing in low doses. This should be good for her why do the doctors but you on something that you might not need she is to old for this.I came on her to vent nobody wants to hear your issues including my son who NEVER calls to see how we are only if he needs some thing from us which I have learned to say no so .....i am trying to be postive about everything will be ok but sometimes well i get depressed and just want to run away and see if anybody misses me. I love my mom very much other wise I would of not done this since 2002 but what about me. to be continued peace to all of you and if your answer my post be kind and excuse any typos I have made. God bless you all.