I think my Mom has become Jekyll and Hyde. One day she is sweet, loving, etc. and the next, mean, demanding, etc. One of her caregivers called me Saturday to say that Mom said "My husband took better care of me than all of you combined" and that I had no right to spend time with my family and I needed to be with her when I wasn't at work. Caregiver said that Mom wanted something every 10 minutes (moved from chair to bed, turn TV, etc) and I told caregiver to tell her NO and to set a time when she lays her down for a nap or to rest when she is tremoring and not to let her up before that time is up!
There are days when I feel like the "push me pull you" animal. I am trying to keep my mother out of a nursing home, but also realize that while I have only been doing this for 14 months, and most of you have been doing it MUCH longer, I know my limitations. If Mom is still alive and stable (meaning she doesn't become bed bound or loses her mind) I know I cannot continue to stay with her in another 2 years. I am trying to take it one day at a time but also be wary of the future.