I've had no problems with managing mom's care or finances since I've been DPOA for a number of years and have been her only caregiver. There were numerous instances where she fell for scams or was taken advantage of by unscrupulous businesses as she lacks critical thinking skills, but I've mostly been able to save her from those errors and the last year have taken over her finances completely. Five years ago when she was only diagnosed with MCI she and her lawyer created a new trust for her and designated me as DPOA and Guardian if she becomes incapacitated. Her previous trust also designated me, so with that history I've felt somewhat secure about the legal basis. My mom now has moderate dementia/Alzheimer's and is living in a board and care home. I've heard that professional guardians can suddenly take over or even unscrupulous care home owners seek legal guardianship and abuse that. I read the guardianship document and it says it goes into effect if three doctors agree she's incapacitated, but I'm hesitant to ask the doctors too soon. She has a neurologist and primary doctor, but there's no third doctor so I'm not sure how to manage finding a third one to actually process a legal guardianship. Mom has moderate dementia. Her long term memory (childhood, younger years and work years) is fairly good but she's not accurate when reporting her medical history or conditions, so her doctors ask me to always accompany her. Her memory of recent situations is a bit fuzzy, but she also has occasional hallucinations and paranoia about people taking her things. It's so sad! Despite that, she generally presents well and has lack of insight (anosognosia,) so believes she's perfectly fine. You have to have known her to know how much she's declined or to spend enough time with her to notice she doesn't remember who was there the day before or even the same day and is confused at times. My question is, is her condition and decreased cognitive function sufficient to be considered incapacitated, is it time to ask doctors for that confirmation or is it too soon?