I have been taking care of my husband for 2 yrs now, he has moderate dementia with a spinal cord injury and stroke. He has a foley catheter and is incontinent of stool. I have tried my best to be patient and but this seems like it is getting worse. the problem is he cant stand to be dirty, but will not sit on the bedside commode says it hurts. He says he cannot tell when he has to go but he complains of pain when he goes, no constipation or hard stool, says he cant tell when he goes but cant stand to feel stool in his butt crack. I change him 6-8 times a day have gone thru piles and piles of creams and suppositories talked to the Dr. Nothing helps . Am i bad to think that maybe he is pulling my leg? That he could do more than he is leading me to believe? Or am I just so frustrated and burnt out that I have used up all my patience. One word in my behalf, when we go out he doesnt complain. We can be out for the day and he will never say a word, also when I am gone out for a while same thing no complaints. I was int the hospital for a night and his grandaughter stayed with him. She said all he did was call me to clean him up. Help!!