My 88 y.o. mom lives in an ALF. She wears Depends pull-ups like most of the residents there but taking mom out for a visit with us or a trip to her hair-dresser is becoming a problem. We always ask the aide on duty to be sure to ask mom to use the toilet before she is picked up. Mom is now having more frequent bowel movements anyway. I am ashamed to say this, but my sister and I both have "weak stomachs" and have a hard time cleaning mom up. We don't want to embarrass mom but cleaning her up is hard. (I do it if I have to but in public restrooms there is very little room to take off her slacks and Depends to clean her and put clean Depends and her slacks back on--even in the larger handicap stalls. I feel confused and guilty b/c I know that taking mom out to lunch, to a dentist or doctor's appt or hairdresser is getting harder to manage. Does anyone else have this problem? Any suggestions?