I had interviewed another lady to help with Mom every other weekend in order to give me a break and to also be backup in case one of the caregivers gets sick, needs time off, etc. She is a small woman, and while I was concerned she wouldn't be able to help lift Mom from chair to bed, bed to chair, etc. I was willing to see how strong she was and had her come and be with one of the caregivers to learn the routine, etc. That was on Thursday. I talked to potential new lady Thursday afternoon and all seemed fine. I got a call from her on Saturday and I didn't receive message until late last night (I have a dumb phone). Anyway, I called her a few minutes ago and she told me that current caregiver told her that I was uncomfortable with a small person taking care of Mom and that I had someone there before who was also small and wanted more hours and I quote "that isn't going to happen". The potential new lady said she prayed about it and was uncomfortable working with Mom if I had a problem with it. Current caregiver also told her that it would only be for 2 days a month...um it isn't up to her to decide when potential works!!! So, in other words, current made potential not want the job!! I called my sister to tell her and her advice was to tell current that potential decided it wasn't worth her time for 2 days a month and how I really want more time with my family. It is going to take all I can not to go off on current but I need her! She wants to go and visit her daughter in about 6 months for 2 weeks and I need someone to take her place...and guess what? It may be permanent if I can find the right person!! ARGH!!
Thanks for letting me vent!!!