This book has really helped me see that my Mum does not have healthy boundaries with me or anyone else. It has given me permission to set some boundaries with her. I have always felt like if I did that in the past....that I was not treating her right because she is my mother and I have to obey her wishes. If I did she or God would think I was bad and I would pay for not doing what she wanted. This sounds crazy typing this out. I get things so twisted in my head sometimes. Maybe this book can help someone else.