When Mom came to live with me I was lost, hurt, alone and very afraid. I started googling her symptoms and looking for answers. I was desperate. I came across questions like mine and answers from ppl on this site. I was amazed at the knowledge, compassion and identification I found here. I was addicted to this site!
I read for weeks, literally day and night, before I finally got up the nerve to ask for help.
I did not mind being open and honest with my Mom's plight. I felt you would understand what she AND I were facing. And thankfully you did. The response was amazing. I thought, thank God for this site and these wonderful ppl.
I stuck around as I dealt with Mom because I felt safe here. No longer alone. You felt like a LifeLine as Mom got worse. I needed you.
As I continued to read questions, I realized I had something to offer. I did not give advice on things I had no experience with. It felt good to be able to give back and help the next person reaching out. AA teaches us this. However, I started to notice when a regular member would answer first, the rest of the regulars would conform and follow suit..... don't do it....do it.....leave him....call the authorities...on and on.
I didn't think much about it, but gave my suggestions from my own way of thinking. My individual experiences and out comes. What I've been taught and what ive struggled with & already worked through.
I was humbly forced to back up my comments and prove I've experienced my advice. When I did ....lay it all out, I figured I was doing it in a safe place, with understanding ppl....Like in a no judgement zone. That was a joke.
I guess there's a dominating clique in every group. Ppl feel possessive of a place and claim it as their own. No room for differing thoughts, Opposing views.
Open mindedness is a valuable asset, as it keeps me learning and growing. Shunning only shows insecurities. It's glaringly obvious any love and support here is extremely conditional. That's pretty sad.
I really get a kick out of the phoney " God bless you" comments and biblical quotes. Cherry picking at it's finest. Don't use God to try to make yourself look like your something your not. Giving a blessing is 💯 percent about the other person. Not thrown around to glorify your image. If it came from the heart, you'd heed His other teachings.
*There is no blessing in being good to ppl you like. No, the blessing comes in being good to those you do not like.* "Or"
*What you do on to the least of you, you do on to me.*
Being a good person is NOT always easy. If it's easy we're not doing it right.
Well, I did not come here to conform. I came to get help and hopefully help others. If that has cause *the clique* to turn their backs on me, when I'm asking for help, feeling my heart's being crushed....then there it is. Actions ALWAYS speak louder then words. Ppl will rarely remember what we said, but always remember what we did.
I do not want or need any phoney justificatory comments. I just needed to say, you read like an open book.
God Bless And may peace be with you.
Pepsee
ALL experience helps others.
I love it here too but I only post when I feel I have something I personally can offer. It is not always right but it is MY OPINION.
If I agree with someone, I will say so.
The group you call 'the clique' (or words to that effect. I find are people that have been here a long time. They have great knowledge, which I mostly agree with. So I may jump on their band wagon. lol
If I have a different opinion that will (I think) be useful to the poster, I also pop my five oars in. :)
Most here are under stress and as such may write something and not mean it the way it comes out. The written word shows no emotion.
I feel I may upset people sometime BUT IT IS NOT MY INTENTION TO DO SO.
My sign offs are usually HUGS AND TAKE CARE.
I am a wacky Brit with an odd sense of humour.
Try and chill a little, my dear. I so think that no one meant to stress you out. When I am having a bad day, I stress out easily. lol
Imagine a 72 year old blob with PMT. Hahahaha
So see you in the next post Pepsee.
Take Care :)
I am so sorry that I have offended you with my SINCERE and LOVING " God bless you" comments and biblical quotes. Unfortunately, I say those comments because I care about you and want the best for you. I am sorry that my occupation as a Volunteer Parish Nurse (Faith Community Nurse) offends and upsets you. I will try my best not to make those type of comments on your posts again.
I am truly sorry to have offended anyone with my words. Faith is a journey of learning and I still make mistakes. Peace be with you too.
I'm glad you're here. You are right, we're all here or should be to help each other and share our experience, strength and hope. Please keep coming back! :)