I don't want my gma in a home but she's driving me crazy. I've been living with her since my GPA passed away five years ago. I've put my life on hold for her.. I couldn't even do online college because she would throw fits while I would take test demanding my full attention, I almost failed that semester. I've had one job and I'm not working now.. when you go to find a job and they ask why have you not worked? It doesn't look good. She's English and grew up during the war in England.. she had a horrible first marriage to a drunk for almost 20 years until he killed his self. But she also had a wonderful marriage with my GPA for 47 years and he was a one of a kind Jewl of a man. Since he's been gone she's been miserable. She talks about wanting to die everyday almost.. were Christians and I understand she's ready to go on to a better place but its depressing hearing it all the time. She's angry all the time and rude she mentally and emotionally abuses everyone. Mostly me, I'm always here. When I was younger j would get upset cry be totally beside myself when we would fight, she was the world to me.. we've had so many fights that have been so crazy AMD ridiculous its hardened me and now I just get mad. Ex. Once she kicked me out because I made peas instead of beans for dinner saying im trying to run her house!!! That's the kinds of ridiculous all the time. She throws fits of rage and justifies it with she's old. That if I remember anything she ever says I have stinking thinking for remembering but its ok if she's does... I got a yr break when a family member stepped in and I moved out got a job was normal for once.. that member lasted two weeks w/o me.. I was stuck in a lease but I still came over cleaned did Dr visits and shopped etc. My lease was up and me and fiance moved in until we get our own place again.. im pregnant and we've been waiting for our house to be delivered for almost 4 months.. I'm seven months pregnant and she's driving me crazy.. our relationship is tainted. I wish we enjoyed eachother but she's constantly putting mecalling me names screaming at me throwing fits accusing me of things and right after all fights she has me make coffee and says how long you gonna be mad get over it, I am.. like it just happened!! Then says I have stinking thinking because I remember the stuff shesays. It's like a mental facility here. It'ssstressful and stressing me is stressing my baby and I'm not happy about that.. Idk what to do but she's dug her self a hole. Out of five kids a brother and two sisters no one talks to her or wants to help she's burned bridges with the entire family with her ways.. and pushes me away every day. I stick around thru the abuse and keep on but its taken a toll and I'm done.. sadly when our house does arrive she has to go into a home. :(
If your grandmother's children which I assume includes either your mom or dad cannot put up with her, then why should you? They need to step up and have the woman taken to the doctor for a full evaluation and placed in a home where she can be safe, and looked after by trained professionals. Tell them you are done and when your last day will be for you, need to get on with your life, education and find a job. I wish you the best in dealing with this mess.
If she gets on the right medication, you may get your grandmother back again, at least a little. Good luck.
God bless you.
Move out as soon as your home is ready. Give your parents and her other children notice that you will now be focussing on your new family. You cannot take care of a new baby and grandmother also, and they'll have to find another solution. Stick to this decision!
It sounds like the solution is going to be for GMA to be placed where she can be taken care of. Or possibly her children can arrange in-home care, but that seems less likely to me. Either way, you can once again take up the role of loving granddaughter who visits when convenient and shows off her awesome new baby. You should not be the caregiver. I hope when you leave this impossible caregiving role you can get back to the loving relationship you once had.