I am grateful already for this community. All of this really can be alienating with friends who are not living it. Background: Both parents in poor health. Dad: MS for 20+ years, falls, refusal to see health care providers, Feb 2018 heart attack. Flu, pneumonia, ICU, rehab, back home with caregivers and in home PT. Mom: Progressive Supranuclear Palsy, Bad fall 7 years ago, broke neck and back, flu resulted in hospital stay and 2 long rehab stays. Back home with same care givers and rehab. Both are wheelchair bound, transfer only. Talked to them for years about assisted living- they got angry and said it was “God’s will” they be in the house they are in. They are 2 hours away from me. Found an assisted living that will work, but only enough money to last about 2 years.....to help spend down to Medicaid- but when they move down here to be closer to me (when they didn’t do that before because they did not want to “burden me”) And it will all be up to me. Every whim, every rant, every appointment... I am currently no evidence of disease from aggressive breast cancer. All the running for them now, my monstrous debt- is overwhelming, and I have help from their friends. I can’t work full time because of what the hard chemos did to my body. And yes- it’s only me. No other family. I helped to take care of my mom’s mom before I got sick, and was glad I was able to. My mom was not in place to help her- her choice. They know my circumstances, and don’t care. They want to know what I am going to do for them. I have no other option but to do it. I know I sound resentful and ugly. I just want to run away. I don’t want to fix all their choices and messes.