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My husband has never been a serious drinker, but has, for many years, enjoyed a cold beer in the afternoon, especially in hot weather. Recently he has wanted a half of a beer and I felt that because his meds are early am and after dinner, that I would not deprive him of this. So I bought a twelve pack today. He promptly had 1 full can, with me gently explaining that his usual is a half. He got very agitated, so I relented. About an hour later I heard him going into the kitchen and the telltale sound of a can opening. As I stepped into the kitchen he was pouring a full can into the water in his water bottle. Of course he would not relinquish this and insisted that he'd not had a beer an hour ago. Then about an hour later-back to the kitchen as I heard yet another pop top hiss open and walked in just as he was putting another full can into his sweat jacket pocket. I told him again that beer and his pills do not mix, but his response was "I don't take any meds!" So lesson learned. I removed the remainder of the beer, managed to get the one out of his pocket and put them in our outside trash. He was becoming combative and by bedtime could barely walk. No more beer for this guy. Another sad thing as I know he will begin asking again.

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We did *exactly* what is described above for my ex-husband's father when he was living with us while dying of cancer and on multiple meds. He had been an alcoholic in his younger years, so that, coupled with the meds he was on made real alcohol an absolute "NO" in my book. I told my then-husband to go out and get a few cans of O'Doul's non-alcoholic beer. He brought it home, poured some in a glass and gave it to his dad - a few sips later, he was happy and never asked for it again.

Maybe it will work?
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How did this work out? Did you try pouring a substitute beer?
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She1934. I think that's a great idea. It's for his own good, and probably he won't notice. So sorry you are going through this time of crises right now. Hoping for a period of calm for you both!
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This is a man who only drinks and know a certain blue can...but I just got an idea....what if I bought a few of "his cans", but also a near beer brand and offer to pour it for him, then make the substitute? Believe me this beer he drank really made him wobbly and aggressive to the point where I was frightened of him. We'd had a decent day, but he then started acusing me of putting him in this place and kidnapping his dog" he was thinking his home was his child hold home about 150 miles away, started gathering up "his things" and laying on his bed to protect them. It was a painful night in an already very painful second family crises.
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Perhaps if it’s a reoccurring request where he gets upset you could buy him one of the near beers. One of the non alcoholic or almost non alcoholic beers? He could have the ritual. The pop of the cold can etc.
hopefully he will forget he likes them soon.
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