I live with my 74-year-old dad and my two young children. My dad won't bathe or change clothes regularly. The house reeks.

The smell permeates all of our clothes. He is a heavy smoker but alot of the odor is just unclean. He has multiple health conditions, broken neck (neuro intact), atrial fib, pacemaker, emphysema. But he is capable of doing most things for himself. However he sleeps most of the days away. He does nothing or very little to help housework. I do about 95% of everything but I also raise 2 girls by myself and work full time at a very stressful job. My nerves are fried. Sometimes I don't know whether I should be concerned or if this is drama and/or laziness. I don't know whether to push him some or just take over. But I feel like I can't keep up wearing this many hats on my own. My own health has been very poor over the last 3 yrs, including GYN surgeries, blood transfusions and autoimmune diseases that make my body attack itself. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to break under the pressure of it all. I was only able to get back on my feet 4 months ago. Is it just me?