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My mom is reaching the end of her battle. Probably days, not weeks or months. She has a wonderful group of caregivers, friends, and family, she is being kept comfortable by her hospice team, and she is in her home; so we couldn't ask for much more at this point.


She has surprised us before, so there is always hope, but her body really is just starting to shut down. I don't really have a question. I just felt a need to reach out.

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Pjmax,
“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.”
― Thomas Campbell
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Our death is not an end if we can live on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us; our bodies are only wilted leaves on the tree of life.
Albert Einstein
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Blufinspirit, I'm sorry that I missed your posts and updates on your mother.  Please accept my apologies, and condolences on your loss.   

I'm glad though that you were able to take comfort from other generous and thoughtful posters here.
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Thank you all for your kind words! I'm not sure why, but it was very therapeutic for me to talk about the experience with anonymous people who have either gone through the EoL experience with a LO or will soon.
Hugs to all of you!!!
-BluefinSpirit
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I am sorry, I hope things go peacefully and without pain. Hugs to you
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Bluefin, my deepest condolences for your loss. Prayers of comfort for the loss of your Mother. hugs
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I am sorry for your loss. Precious Memories. Hold them close.
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blue - deepest condolences and prayers for you at this difficult time. I am glad your mum is now at peace ((((((hugs)))))
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Sorry for your loss Bluefinspirit.

And thank you for sharing your Mom's post-it notes! That was so encouraging about life's attitudes.
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Blue, May God grant you grieving mercies and peace during this difficult time.

What a blessing that she rallied and was able to make some more happy memories for her family to cherish until they see her again.

Great big hug to your entire family 🤗
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Blue, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Blue, sending thoughts of love and peace to you, your mother and your family. I am glad she is comfortable with family around her.

Be gentle with yourself too. Sending a huge hug.
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It sounds like my mother and yours are at a similar stage. I hurt for you and offer my prayers. She too has surprised me more times than I can count but now she's stopped eating and only drinking sips of water. I'm so ready to see her have some peace. She has vascular dementia and has been so miserable in her body for about a year. On top of this she is crying now when I talk to her and it's the most pitiful almost "dry" cry if that makes sense. Not many tears just the noise. It's torture to see and listen to and it's heartwrenching for me. I could take her passing so much better if not for her emotions. She's not in pain as far as we can tell. The doctor took her off Ativan and Haldol to see if she'd be more alert and want to eat and drink more. Wondering if the withdrawal of these meds could be causing her to be so emotional or if she's just afraid of dying maybe? I did ask her if she was worried about something and she managed to say "the future". She's always been a chronic worrier. I called the Hospice chaplain to come talk with her since he knows her from the previous facility she lived. She understood he was there but wondering how much she absorbed.
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I’m sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and comfort
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My condolences to you and your family for the loss of your mom. Wishing you comfort and peace during these difficult days.
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Blue,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I would feel the same as you, being grateful that she is no longer suffering. Now the grieving process officially begins. It’s not easy but a sad part of our lives. Hugs.
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My mom passed last night at 10:54 pm. She is now no longer suffering and at peace. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and for letting me get my emotions out on this forum. XO
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Blue. And thank you for sharing your Mom lovely sayings.
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Prayers and blessings for you and your family.
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Glad that you are able to spend time with your mom. My mother was pretty much out of it by the time she got to hospice - on morphine and tranquilizer. She did not really wake up over the four days there. Your mom and I have something in common - we both collect smart sayings and quotes.
My mom, over the past few years, had hidden notes in books for me to find and it has been a comfort. She passed away in hospice right before Christmas. Hugs to you and your mom.
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Bluefinspirit, I’m grateful you and your brother have been able to share a few good days with mom. You’ve certainly been blessed. Her post-it notes are inspiring. She must be an incredible woman!
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Bluefinspirit, that was such a touching post. While the days may end soon it seems so nice to have had this quality time to share. There aren't alot of pleasant death stories. You are very fortunate.
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So....
Mom is still holding on (thank you, methadone and morphine). She had a couple of days of "rebound" where she actually was able to get out of bed, eat at the table (tiny bits), sit in her backyard enjoying the birds, and go for a stroll (in her wheelchair) around the block. I think she might have put everything she had into those couple of days with both my brother and me here, and now she's back in bed just content to hold our hands.

I'm sitting in her back room right now, and I'd like to share some of the little sayings on sticky notes she has posted all over the room:

"Life is short, so forgive quickly. Believe slowly. Love truly. Laugh uncontrollably. Never regret anything that makes you happy. And have a wonderful journey!!!"

"We do not stop playing because we are old, we grow old because we stop playing."

"Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, and leave the rest to God."

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

"Enjoy life NOW! It has an expiration date."

"First you're young, then you're middle-aged, and then you're wonderful!"

"To live in the hearts we leave behind is to not die."

"Once a year, go someplace you've never been before."

"Live a good, honorable life. Then, when you are older, think back, and you'll be able to enjoy it a second time."

"In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."

Thank you for letting me share!
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Blue,

The will to survive amazes me, yet people get so tired. Still praying for you and your family 💗.
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Thank you all!!! Mom is still hanging in there. She is such a trooper and does whatever is asked of her. She's not really eating, and only drinking sips of water when prompted, but she has NOT given up yet and still wants to be up and about. If only her body would cooperate.
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I am so sorry, bluefinspirit. It's good for you to reach out to us, those of us who have been where you are right now. I'm relieved your mother and you have support. Be easy on yourself, dear, as you escort your mother on her final journey, a tough but sacred task. *big hug*
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I am sending thoughts and prayers to You, Your Family and of course, your Mom hoping that you find peace during this difficult time. Love & Hugs
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I will pray for your family and burn a candle for you at Mass. 💗
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Prayers of comfort for you and your family at this time. Hugs*
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