I started in November 2019, and it was a perfect match.
As time went on the other woman that was a care partner (another care giver that lived on premise, was fired, as she had some previous issues, and I am not sure, other than she was completely hostile to me)
In January of 2020, Client remembered a woman and the woman/caregiver told me that she knew client was "in love with her" and she repeats that to me every time I see her. She goes out of her way to never show her face.
I am a person that is an advanced care professional, and with this family, I was greeted with very warm arms. Things were stressed with the first woman, and the 2nd woman, in my personal observation, I knew nothing about her other than the client was clearly obsessed with her. She quit last year because she did not want to have a relationship with him. She then decided to come back. Since January, 2020, every time I am on shift it is caregiver this, caregiver that, she is wonderful, and we had a talk and worked everything out. This client is 98 years old, with moments of delusions, as well as dementia, and at times, is completely lucid.
I was allowed to meet her, but I was not given a questions of what do you think? The reason I state this, is because, based on her communication, her lack of professionalism, and the reality that this family knew things and would not disclose to me, the important reason would be so that I do not walk right into a situation,
Meaning, caregiver had no issues up until 4/10/2020 saying "client loves me" I just give him a big hug.
Then on her watch he fell. Caregiver always darts downstairs to her room, and never comes upstairs where she is to be with client, unless it is necessary.
She is not absent, but in my eyes, I have realized very quickly that anything I said that was of concern regarding Clients health, or ADL, or anything of that nature, the daughter would always side with the Caregiver. I was a daughter of an Alzheimer's mom, and honestly there was so much peace, that this was very confusing.
I thought that I had a fabulous relationship with the Daughter and Son. The son made it clear he wanted nothing to do with this. They both said "we love you both like family".
In fact last Thursday, the daughter emailed me regarding the vacuum, as I said that there really needs to be a lighter vacuum but I want to be conscious of finances. She told me fabulous Idea, thank you and what did I think of this particular one. I said great.
I have never missed one day or one hour at this job.
In the beginning, it was very different. There is no care plan in writing. The POLST form just went up 2 months ago and I just found out the client had Kidney failure and Heart issues!!! I thought about it and thought, well it is clear that this family does not have the best communication with the caregivers, but as a family in home care provider, I am not there to tell them things they are doing wrong.
When I start, the first day, I ask them, I know that walking into each family, everyone has their differences as far as communication. What is the best way that I can assist you and your family. I was talking to the daughter. She said "we love the information that you send us, and you are very caring and really know what you are doing".
So I have been showing up Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday.
Remember Caregiver 1 spends the night and is paid for that, as well as paid for 1 hour in the morning. The daughter did not want me to show up until 11:00.
I was always there before 11:00am, and the other caregiver would scoot as fast as she could before I could ever talk to her about the reality of the night and day! (seemed strange, but the family does not need two squabbling caregivers).
The client fell on an Iron table stand when it was on Client number 1's time. He was in the ER with a horrible bruise. To this day there are several variations of how he fell, but for me as an experienced caregiver it does not take