I'm only caregiver because my sister disowned Mom when she got a cat. 12 yrs ago but my mother assumes I'm happy to give up my life for her!!! She's 85 I'm only 63. I have 30 cats and am active in rescue and spend every other day w her for 24 hrs! She has 5 cats. Not a big deal but she drinks, then I get the guilt trip. I take her to Hawaii every yr! And wheel her around to best restaurants! What more can I do I think she wants me to die for her!!!!!