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In other "civilized" nations they have free college, healthcare and senior care, but here in the land of the "free" NOTHING is free......
Depending on how deep this is, you may need the help of a therapist. It's going to be mighty tough with your living in his house. He may revert or only have reverted to seeing you as his little girl once again. Chose to related to him as his adult daughter for that is what both of you really need. You can't change how he relates with you, but you can chose how you relate with him.
Good luck and keep in touch.
Yes, tell don't ask, what you expect from Hospice because they should be doing much more.
Hospice SHOULD give you 5 days respite. They'll place your father in either a NH or specific Hospice House. My mother just came home and WE both feel better. Just tell your hospice you're ready for your 5 days and schedule you in! Don't ask... tell.
Wishing you the best!
I hope your seeing an attorney to help get Veteran's and Medicaid will get you help soon. When do you see him?
Do you have any children who still live at home?
Does your husband work?
You are mighty young to have quit your job. Have you lost health insurance as well?
Does your dad have any financial resources that might help pay for some caregivers?
Would your dad qualify for Medicaid?
You are only one person, plus you have a marriage to nurture and it does sound like your burned out as the sole caregiver. 1/3 of caregivers die before the person they are caring for dies. You don't want to end up as a statistic.
You do need to consider your own health and future retirement in this whole equation.
I'm glad to hear you have a wonderful husband, but he's only going to be able to absorb so much of your stress. How is that relationship going? I've seen many people lose their spouse while taking care of a parent. You don't want that to happen to you.
Please don't do what some caregivers do in spending what you have saved for your own retirement.
Sorry to hear about your incarcerated brother.