People don't realize what it involves with taking care of an elderly parent. It's life changing......it's almost like a curse.......it's terrible. I have no time for myself......had to quit my job......have siblings that won't help.........my mother is in terrible condition......eyes, heart and arthritis. She is always constipated and wants milk of mag all the time. I feel like I'm trapped......no time to do anything myself. When a parent gets old....it's terrible......life is terrible.
It is horrible how siblings can be so selfish, I disowned mine 8 ys ago, After dad died they conspired to have me charged with elder abuse and tried to take mom and her home! They are both homeless and mentally ill, and in court I prevailed, in a sense, but the thought that your own family did this to you, OMG.....Heartbreaking like nothing i've ever felt!!! So within 6 mos of losing dad I essentially lost them all, dad, brothers, and mom (she was not the same mom I knew) I digress, but just to let you know you are not alone........ALL I CAN SAY IS TRY TO UNDERSTAND IT IS THEIR SHORTCOMINGS AND NOT TAKE IT PERSONAL.....YOU ARE AN ANGEL, A VERY SPECIAL INDIVIDUAL WITH SPECIAL SKILLS......you are SPECIAL, AND NOT ALONE!
So I respect your thoughts on help, and totally understand how you feel and agree with you. but just ask you to try to give it some thought!
The issue with siblings makes me so sad. I can't understand how all siblings can't participate in the care of their parents. My sister flew in when dad had a heart attack then 7 years later flew in again for his funeral. She said she couldn't handle seeing him like that. WTH, and I could? She wasn't interested in helping ME with our mom and told me so. Her "helping" mom was a bi-weekly phone call for one hour and 95% of the call was about herself. But mom ate it up because she was the golden child. Infrequently she sent mom money so she could take the paid caregiver to lunch but not one penny for me or my kids. I got it, it was all about her dislike for me. We no longer communicate. We're in a legal mess over mom's estate and we have to pay lawyers because she won't speak to me and now won't speak to even her lawyer. I no longer have a family. It is heartbreaking. I cringe when I think about elderly sick parents and their wills/assets. This combo brings out pure evil in way too many people.
You deserve it.
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Most of the elderly people I've met in this area live in senior assisted living communities. The communities are apparently very good, because the people say they enjoy living there. They are expensive, but if a senior can afford to live in one, it is a much better option than having one of the children quit their job and move in. Just my opinion.