Since my dad died I've been spending every other weekend my mom, my sisters instead of appreciating it, seem to resent it. They feel that I am "enabling mom" and she is using me as a crutch. I feel sorry for Mom she's so lonely after dad's death. It's hurtful that my sisters are condemning me for spending time and organizing things for her. (Like lining up a gardener, a housekeeper, a plumber, taking her to look at independent living, etc. I've done SO much in this past year and I've been happy to do it.) they've accused me of being controlling-- I have no desire to control!! If they would step up and spend a weekend with her I'd be happy to back off.