Mom is ok, but I feel like such a jerk most of the time because @ times mom drives me insane and I just want to quit. Why do I keep giving her these medications to control hbp & cholesterol levels & gerd & anxiety & arthritis & memory care & lactose intolerance & nutritional supplements & nag @ her to please eat and please drink and let's take this stool softener and this laxative so you won't get backed up...and...and....and.....oh yeah, and the pain pills so she won't feel any pain. But I can give her something to eat and she does not know what it is but will tell me it is good. I will ask her to stop doing something and she will say okay and I'm sorry and then I ask her what did I just ask you and she does not recall. Is there really any sanity to this?? At all??
My entire family has abandoned me, and her. She has next to no income and it was already tied up in debt b4 it hit her bank account, and I am about 4-5 grand in debt taking care of her for the last 3 years 24/7. My health is "not"....I am way past due for surgery and am probably walking around with endometrial cancer due to not being able to make proper provisions for her care while trying to get care for myself. I mean, I know her life is important. I love my mom. I have always, and I mean always taken care of my mom. After my dad died when she was 54, she wanted to turn into a recluse...my hubby & I took in into our home, took care of her, encouraged her, and I helped her gain some self esteem and she actually went out and got a job and started working and became a key member in her church and went on mission trips, even to the olympics. I have devoted my life to my mom, and hubby, & children, and siblings which now have nothing to do with me.
Why, someone please give me some insight on why I am having these feelings that I am just wasting my time these days. I have no life other than taking care of mom. I have other things I need to get done but by the time I am through with her I am physically & mentally exhausted. I thank God for an understanding and helpful husband. I thank God I have one son who has put his life on halt to help take care of my older disabled son so he is not "left out in the cold"....it is like we are all frozen in time....and the rest of the world is going on around us.....and I am the figure in the wind up snowball that just keeps doing the same motion over and over and over and over......I feel like an ant carrying sand granules on my back endlessly never knowing when I will get stepped on....but I know I will get stepped on eventually....and I don't even know how t0 begin dropping off the sand and heading in another direction. no, I am not depressed. I am not sad. I am angry, not at my mom, but @ the situation and circumstances, which I really have zero control over without just being a jerk of a person and dropping her off somewhere and saying I am not doing this any more. And then, how would I live with myself. Does any one else ever feel this way? Is it normal? Is it just a hopeless situation that only death will change the results? I mean, Jesus, while on his way to heal a sick person, stopped and took time out to heal someone else, knowing the first person may die during the wait....but he still took the time....so that shows that taking the time to take care of someone is important......it is necessary.....but seriously, as you diminish, how do you continue the journey? All opinions are welcome.....the only ones I have had are from my sons....and they have a very different perspective on things since they are in the fire with me. Thanks and god bless.