I am an only child, 63 years old. My 87 y/o mother recently (about 3 months) moved into a wonderful retirement home 10 minutes from my house. She is in mid-stage dementia and declining. I now deal with daily dilemmas from depression, loneliness, can't work the remote, doesn't like the cable, can't log into the computer, my leg hurts, my hip hurts, wants to constantly go to a different Dr. for ailments, asks me everyday if I'm coming over, etc. I have tried to set limits but I am just running out of energy dealing with this everyday. We live in a small town with few medical specialists and I have difficulty getting advice. My heart breaks daily seeing her unhappy and in discomfort but I am exhausted trying to keep up. I have already taken over her finances and accompany her to all Dr. appts and most shopping trips. But she doesn't want to partake in the activities unless I join in so she stays in her apartment most of the time. She cries when I leave and tells me she wouldn't know what she would do without me. Now she has begun to fall. So far nothing too bad and she has immediate help where she is but I don't know how far to let this go before she will need assisted living, which I know will just send her farther down emotionally. And yes, we have recently put her on anti-depressants. It's too much for me to carry sometimes, I don't know how to help her and I know it's only going to get worse.