I think this is a common feeling that many people have felt. The person that is being cared for changes so much that they truly aren’t the same person anymore.

I wish we all had magic wands and could wave illnesses and disease away.

Take care.

Grief is a normal emotion for someone caring for an AD LO even before death. We experience both "anticipatory" and "ambiguous" grief. Anticipatory is the feeling of expecting someone's death. There is no cure or even treatment for AD so death is anticipated. Ambiguous grief is watching our LO slowly decline and not being with us mentally, but still alive. Most of us go thru one or the other or both types of grieving. We all deal with it in our own ways and eventually have to work thru it so it doesn't consume our own lives. Don't assume that "time will heal all". It's what you DO with that time that will help to bring you to peace.

There are some excellent books on grief and grieving. "The Grief Recovery Handbook", "The Essential Guide to Grief and Grieving", and "How to go on Living When Someone You Love Dies", among others. Check with your library or Amazon to find these.

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