my husband is 82 and I am 67. He had triple bypass surgery last year. He is home now but I am not sure how much longer I can take care of him. He doesnt do anything around the house so everything is up to me and I am worn out. We have retirement income, what will assisted luving do to our finances?
My late husband was 12 years older than me and when it got to the point where he couldn't help me with anything anymore, I just learned to hire any help that I needed around the house, and I was able to keep him home until his death.
And he had had a massive stroke at the age of 48, which left him with many permanent disabilities, and which later caused him to develop dementia. He died in our home at the age of 72.
You don't mention what type of care your husband now requires, but if his care is truly getting to be just too much for you, then it may be time for placement. But if it's just the chores around the house that are getting to be too much for you, just hire some outside help, as again that will be much less expensive than paying for a facility.
But before you do anything you need to speak to an Elder Law Attorney, to discuss what your financial future will look like once your husband is placed.
I wish you wisdom and discernment in this situation.
This is advice, just from a brief explanation of your husband, more details of his health would be better, if you want to expand on his issues.
Nothing about this is easy, I know!!! 🙂↕️🫂
Or-- is he like my husband was (while in early dementia)-- simply a bump on a log?
Assisted living is expensive. Do check places, as prices can vary.
If he goes to AL alone, everything will STILL be up to you, around the house.
If you go with him, you will STILL be taking care of him. Plus dealing with selling/moving...
What about hiring a part-time caregiver for him? Probably less expensive than AL.
Sorry you're dealing with this.