I would have divorced him years ago especially after I learned he was also unfaithful. He traveled most of the times and we have two children. I guess I stayed with him for the children and couldn't see how I could make it financially without him. My children are now grown. After 46 years of marriage he still the condescending and abusive person he always was to me anyway. Except now I am always the bad guy. I am just freaking tired and want out. I'd like to enjoy my grand babies and travel a little. Instead I am the hired help with no gratitude whatsoever. Help! And don't say it's just the disease.