Mom is partially blind, uses a walker,some incontinence ( wears depends and is able to change them on her own), slight dementia ( confused 5% of the time), a survivor of three strokes and her doctor says that she is in good health for her age. I have to assist her with bathing and dressing due to her blindness and balance issues. She has always had a pleasant personality and enjoys interacting with others. My husband is a Pastor of a small congregation where we both minister. My father was a Pastor so mom is right at home with us being able to attend church services and participate any way she can regularly, which she was unable to do before coming to live with us. My husband is not in agreement for her to live with us permanently and the plan was for me to be allowed to bring her home with us and transition her to assisted living because she is unable to live alone. I have no family members here in Georgia so i am missing the support needed to help with mom. There are those who could relieve me in the home if needed, however my husband is very picky about who can be left alone in our home which makes my options more difficult. I am 58 and my husband is 71 with some health issues developing just recently. I do my best to keep any burden from him by caring for mom completely without his assistance. I realize he is still sort of caretaker as well just by all of us being in the same household. I am writing today because it is becoming more difficult each day to cope. My husband constantly complains about the care i give my mom- he criticizes how i care for her-accuses me of giving her too much attention-accuses me of not paying enough attention to some things- one minute he is supportive and the next minute he is very resentful that she is here in our home invading his space. Both of his parents lived to be well in their 90's before we were married 12 years ago and he was the caretaker for both of them, living in the same home with them and made it possible for them to not be placed in a nursing home for about 10 years. I explained to him that I would like to give my mother the best care possible as he did his parents and not just rush her into a nursing home or assisted living facility. I understand that he was single when he cared for them, it is just unfortunate that their is no one else who can care for my mother except for me at this time. One of my nieces in New York had volunteered to take on the task and grew weary after about a few months and it was not safe for mom to go back to her apartment that she had, so that is why she is here. I don't know how to make life more tolerable for myself because of my husband's constant nagging and complaining. My husband is very independent and prefers to do most everything for himself, yet in still he accuses me of not giving him enough attention and when it is offered he refuses and this was going on before she even came to live with us. My goal is to speak to mom about having her own place in an assisted living community, I just wanted to smooth transition her because she has voiced in the past that she does not want to go to a nursing home unless it becomes too much for me to handle her. I have stopped working temporarily because my husband is not willing to allow her to live here and have aides come in to care for her while I work. Can someone out there PLEASE HELP ME with some helpful advice to cope with what I am going through?