Anyone who can remember back like 4 years ( I think this may be the topic that brought me here in the first place)...was the frustration over my DH's refusal to address his very obvious and fairly serious hearing loss.
Nothing worked, Kindness, anger, crying, negotiating, nothing. He did go in for a hearing check a year ago and the audiologist was so waffly about whether he's do better with aids meant he thought he was fine.
Few weeks ago, I threw away all the info he'd gotten and just decided to live with hollering at him. He was so checked out all the time. He started noticing that he was missing a LOT of stuff at work and that the grandkids always came to ME with anything they needed, he simply can't hear them.
I don't KNOW what the actual tipping point was. One day he just said "Did you say that there was a hearing clinic close by?" Yep. .8 miles away. He said "Go ahead and make an appt for me. I don't think I have a problem they can help but I can't stand you texting me from the basement bedroom at 1 am telling me to turn the TV down when I can barely hear the dialougue".
He went yesterday. I went with him (which was suggested) and I was silent as the grave.
Results? Moderate to severe loss in one ear and moderate in the other. Hearing aid worthy?? YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think I might have shed a tear.
He looked over all the options and such, and being an engineer, he was very stoked about the bluetooth options---and so after an hour of fussing over what would be best HE ORDERED THE BEST OF THE BEST. He kept saying "These are SO expensive" and I said "we can afford them. Get what you want."
He had to leave town, but I paid for these and he went on his way. Next week he gets them and learns how to work with them.
I could cry, I did cry. I am so happy.
BTW, even though he was in the soundproof booth--I could hear a lot of the tones and was raising my finger to show "left, right" where the sound was coming from. The audiologist said it was not uncommon for one spouse to develop "spidey sense" hearing when the other one goes deaf.
His hearing has most definitely degraded over the last year.
Best part was, he wasn't angry or defensive. He just accepted it, and onc embroiled in the "techie" part of how these things work (he's an engineer) he was sold.
I know we're at step 3 of about 8 steps--he has to adjust to them, etc., and not LOSE them...but I have hope.