Maintaining a family while caring for an elderly parent. I had hoped that my kids would see the importance of taking care of family once they are grown. But I worry they can only see the intrusion and frustration that is caused the family. My father-in-law is not a cuddly grandpa that wants to talk to the grandkids and be around them. Our weekends are spent at home because someone needs to be here with him. Summer vacation for the kids was uneventful as we weren't able to do anything outside the home.