My mother has end-stage COPD. She lives at home, has oxygen, breathless and weak with exertion. She has lost a lot of weight and not caring for herself. Can still make it to the bathroom, but not more showers or anything. My father lives nearby and cares for her daily; I'm 2 hours away and see her on weekends and will be taking more time off now to be with her. I'm her POA for health care and will meet with the doctor next week with my mom and dad to activate the POA and discuss next steps. I'm terrified of the responsibility. Can I name a joint person, like my sister, though she lives a few states away...or does my mom need to do that while or if she can. I don't like having the sole responsibility and feel that I will just not be able to handle it. What are some practical steps to take and which professionals do I go to to for an explanation of how to approach this, get through this, make informed decisions, and still function. I really don't want the sole responsibility of making an end of life decision--but am also wary of sharing the responsibility or giving it to someone else--and having someone decide something I don't agree with. Does this sound familiar or just indecisive or weak-spined of me. (question mark not working).