So once again the great holidays are upon us and how do I deal with the siblings that do not interact with me at ALL??? I am my mom's full time caregiver whom has never defended me with my siblings at all. I just had surgery and the recovery is going as planned. My sister and brother do not call me or in any other way try to at least maintain the appearance that I am their sister. Yet, she told my mom that she wanted to find out what I was going to do for Thanksgiving! No matter how much mom doesn't want them to show up she will not say anything to them. So of course the stress just shows up in her glucose readings and the worsening of her dementia symptoms. And I am the lucky one to deal with it.
I have told them over and over but they do not care! Therefore, I came up with my solution. I told my mom: if they come, then YOU spend the day with them. If they don't then you spend the day with US. Other than that I am going to spend the day how I want to spend it! How are some of you handling this problem?