I'm sure many of you with a parent or other loved ones in a facility may have experienced other people looking down on you because of the decision you made. Well just hold on... I say this because they will more than likely be in the same situation. For example, there is a person that I know who I'm basically sure talked about me and etc. Well.. guess where her parents are now?? But everyone thinks it was a good move for her because she works and etc but I work and etc also. The point is to try not to let it bother you when people speak on things that are none of their business because sometimes, they will be in the same situation.
You made the best decision you could. It is somewhat enlightening to hear your perspective on others who will one day find themselves in this situation.
People who talk negatively about others are insecure with themselves. Judging others for a situation we don't understand, we may well find ourselves facing the same difficult decisions one day.
I have received judgement from family and some friends for the opposite: choosing to take care of my bed-ridden husband at home. I have had inconsiderate people say; "Why don't you just put him in a nursing home and get on with your life?"
About a year later this same ( retired) sister in law placed her own mother ( also with dementia ) in AL.
My mother died first. Sister in law brought her mother to my mother’s funeral as “ show and tell “ to show us what she was dealing with . By then the poor woman was in her 90’s in memory care . She was so confused that day . She recognized no one besides her daughter and kept asking to go home.
It takes all kinds . 🙄🙄🙄