This is going to ramble, I am so at my wits end...sorry!
We just spent the first 3 years of our marriage shoveling out my In-Law's house to save it from County condemnation. They both suffer dementia but somehow still drive....and even though all $ has been spent on flea market and GoodWill items, over $2 million in flea marketing is a lot of stuff, they are out shopping and filling house up again instead of paying health insurance and buying food. Their rooms are not safe, period. They haven't paid taxes in a couple years and I would hate to see them lose insurance, house, everything because they have no ability to manage money. They haven't spoken civilly in 28 years, but remain in same house, each are afraid that "someone" will favor one over the other and give them more leeway. It is ridiculous. I was raised in a matter of fact environment so to watch this is awful. First, how do you talk to Dr about elderly being unsafe drivers? The MIL has had several "incidents" where she left the scene.