I want to say that I have been reading that alot of you that have really hard stressful situations for the Holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas, please be grateful.
Grateful is something that in our world we never think of, when we are caring for someone full time, work the other hours have no time for sleep, then squeeze in a meal here and there.
Caregivers, family and other Caregivers, we all need to take care of ourselves. No is not an answer if sisters or brothers will not help. We cannot do it all. Being a caregiver is a very exclusive club of people, and many of you did not ask to be a caregiver you are a caregiver because someone in your family is ill, and you are the only one to care for them. May you be blessed in your life, for your selfless love.
There are many of us, that do not have the issues you have, but you have your family with you. That is what these holiday's at times are for. Family.
I am so sorry, that you are really suffering and overworked, and yes delegate as much as you can. Please remember at all times, to know your limits and take care of yourself, as you will be no good to anyone if you do not.
I say this as my Adult Children for a number of reasons (other parts of the country), cannot be with my husband and I, and my mother passed in 2016, my husband we found out has Leukemia, 2018 and so the one thing I am Blessed for, is that I have my Caregiving Sisters and Brothers out there,
My father is in assisted Living, and has Lewy body Dementia and Primary Progressive Aphasia, and is the brightest spot in anyone's life. Here is a man that because of Lewy Body, his body is twisted, he is 100% dependent on people to help him in every way to live, eat, sleep, every function of life. It takes three people to care for him, we pay privately for one. we are blessed, and we will celebrate with him a week earlier.
Saying that however, as we all get older as caregivers, it won't be the same without my adult children and grandchildren, but also my mother, who peacefully passed from Alzheimer's, and my father.
Let's all be very thankful for the fact that the people that drive us crazy, talk loud, eat with their mouths open, they are our family, and be grateful that they are in your lives in our families, and God Bless you for taking them in on an evening where they would be alone.
Caregivers have a very hard demanding job, and many of you are not paid, and I bless you for helping every single day, as this is not a job for the weak at heart. It is a priceless job, there is not a price tag to put on it, because it is the compassionate heart, the giving up of your needs, the realizing they have become the child and you are now the adult.
Thank you for being a part of the Caregiving Team of America, and may everyone, where ever they are be Grateful for the life they have, and if there is sorrow due to a death, we pray with you for peace!