Hair, skin and beauty for caregivers.

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A thread where we can come and share what works and what does not work in the realm of beauty, cosmetic and skin products.
We, caregivers, need to take time out and care for our appearance.
It boosts morale, self esteem and keeps us looking "put together", though we may not feel so much put together on the inside.
Share your beauty, hair, and skin secrets with us. We need all the help we can get, right?
With love for all,
Mulata88

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i am mulata88, and i have found the "perfect for me" gray hair coverage finally!!!!!
i have been coloring my hair for 25 years. so, yes, i have tried it all. of course, salon coloring is done by the professional, but so is the price.
here is my "secret", not too many of my friends / acquaintances know i color my hair.........
sally's beauty supply. ion hair creme, permanent color (in a tube). ion developer, 20% volume at 1:1 ratio = 2oz of hair color creme, 2oz of developer. i get the developer for sensitive scalp.
no ammonia odor, no burn.
apply color generously to side burns, hair above ears, and hair around the forehead. i use a flat brush (same store), it gives me good handling, good 2 inch coverage. long tail in brush helps part the hair.
once you've soaked the areas where you have the most stubborn gray, proceed to the entire head. make small parts on your head, starting from the face toward the back of the head. with a comb, comb the side that has been colored, proceed to the next parting. for shoulder length hair or shorter, you only need what i mentioned. for longer hair... i don't know. probably double it. like i said, i don't know.
i was using 30% volume developer thinking it would work better??? not on gray growth.
i watched several youtube programs, where it is very well explained, tried it and finally got the results i wantedddddd!!!
i am mexican, so my hair is dark brown, but so much of it is gray now... i am almost 55 and not ready to go gray...........not now.
i use a teatree oil conditioner after the color treatment, which i leave on for 1 hour. oh, 10 minutes before the hour, i do get the little bit i saved in the bowl and put it on my ends. it colors them enough, and does not fry them.
mexican hair has the tendency to go reddish. which i would like to avoid..............so my color is a medium ash brown. avoids the reddish tone.
ok, have you guys seen the commercial about wen? the cleansing conditioner that claims it is the best thing that will happen to your hair and scalp??? it is true! it is true!
wen, by chaz dean (i believe) has the best product ever.
you wash your hair with sulfite free product which is only one product. no more shampoo and conditioner, just the wen....................
i have bought it on ebay because buying it thru the wen website costs a fortune and you have to be a subscriber.........................and it is pricey.
you might like to check amazon. not sure.
when i need to "treat" my hair to a spa like feeling, i use this oil: kukui nut oil.........best thing e-v-e-r!!! e-v-e-r!!!
if you know anyone who suffers from psoriasis..................kukui nut oil!!! no prescription, treatment, dermatologist, creams, lotions, medicated, non medicated......................kukui nut oil is the answer for psoriasis and eczema.............
husband has suffered from these skin conditions for 20 years................now skin is like a baby's bottom, i am not exaggerating..........................anyway........................my hair is right above shoulder length, naturally wavy, dark brown with more than 65% gray now. ion products are very easy on the hair. and wen has a hair creme for frizzies and fly-aways, i use about a pea size to tame the side burn area, and the temple area.
maybe we should open a post thread called "beauty ideas"? "beauty and the beast", hahaha.......................whatever. we need to look good because it makes us feel better...............sigh!!!!!!!!!!
I asked a very young looking lady, what was her secret, her face had minimal wrinkles..............and she was no young chick.
She answered: DRINK LOTS OF WATER EVERY DAY!

That was her secret.................no beauty creams, etc. Just H20, wow!

M88
Mulata88, thanks for all the great suggestions.

I have found after dealing with my parents for the past 7 years, I have given up pretty much anything that has to do with skin or hair care.

I use to use eye liner, but now I am so stressed out that I can't paint on a straight line anymore my hand shakes too much :P

Some day I will get back to it... my Mary Kay consultant thought I had disappeared off the face of this earth.
No one sees me so who cares how I look?
I get my hair dyed every month a different color, usually in the wine or auburn colors. My original color was light brown with blonde and strawberry blonde highlights but most of my family are natural redheads so I have the fair,fair skin that anything except black or platnium blonde will work. My hair almost hits my bottom so I dont have time to comb it everyday so i wash it and throw it up into hippie hair. Once every week or two, i will shove conditioner into it for about 3 hours and brush it.

I dont wear makeup, use creams or lotions except eos lip balm or on a special occasion. I take a shower twice a day, thats it. I look young for my age and think I look ridiculous and look old when I try to wear makeup. I only use dove sensitive skin soap because I itch from dye and scents in soap.
Ladies, ladies, ladies!

We are caregivers, but we need the mirror to say HI! YOU ARE LOOKING GOOD! YOU MUST BE TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!
How are we going to keep going..............if we don´t care for ourselves???

CWillie, don´t you look at yourself?

I stopped looking.........and when I did look again, whoah!!! who was that¡!?!?!?!? It was me! I said, oh no! Mom looks 10 times better than me, and no, I am not going to have it. HAHA!

So, here I go with the face cream at night, aromatherapy, sound machine aka: sound of brooke, fake brooke obviously, since we are in a drought here in Cali.

I looked and I saw that most of my EYELASHES are white now............????? Had no idea that would happen, but mom tells me: UUGGHH, you look like my MIL, in other words my grandmother on the evil side, aka my dad's side...........

I said jokingly: Mom, YOU PICKED THEM, (meaning my dad and his family), haha, she laughed and laughed.

So, my feet look like my dad's...................she picked him

I look like his mother....................part of the package.

I found some good face soap, goat's milk, at Grocery Outlet. Leaves skin smooth and hydrated. No more kabuki feeling face. HA!

OH, and the Mary Kay lady................hahaha, mine also gave up. But I got some MK on eBay!!! Hint Hint... FreqFlyer, they probably have your favorites. And they are open 24-7, just like us! Yay!

So, even when I take mom to her appointment(s) and hubby to his, I need to look presentable. I look around at other caregivers and I FEEL LIKE THEY LOOK!!!

Chin up! Oh, pluck those there under the chin too!

M88
Lol mulata, that sounds like alot of work. For me, a bohemian style works just fine. I had to give up flip flops and chuck taylors for heels for a meeting Friday and I have blisters all over and it hurts. Its too painful trying to conform to to how I should look.
Are you what in fashion now is called BOHO? Having blisters after heels, no good.

I think I am just keeping the "beauty" from the neck up. How's that? ; ^ )

M 8 8
I hate to admit it, but after I quit teaching to stay home with Mom I totally let myself go. Think it was a combo of depression and exhaustion. Some days I didn't even shower or get out of my pajamas! As Cwillie said, no one sees me, so who cares? Well, just NO Cwillie don't do what I did. You care, you matter.
Besides being slovenly, I gained 30 lbs on top of the extra 30 I already carried and one day I just had enough I guess.
I began eating low carb slow but sure and I started inventing recipes to satisfy my cravings forMexican, Italian and Chinese food. And deserts! For the first time in my lifetime of dieting I could finally stick with it and really doesn't feel like a diet at all. Then I got inspired to share and took on the project of writing an e-book for Amazon which is about half finished now. The Title is: Low Carb, Real Life.
Anyway, the extra 30 lbs are gone and now nibbling away at the 30 lbs I've carried all my adult life. IT's like a miracle to me. I bought some new clothes, colored my blonde hair after letting roots grow out for months and I am really feeling so much better. My previous posts on here show my depressed state. Now both my mother and I are doing better.
I used to get tired of hearing "take are of yourself too". Was like, "yeah sure, with what time and with what money". But little things do add up. So my fellow caregiving ANGELS, Take Care of Yourselves!
tacy022, I give up on my shoes that had any type of heel when one day I turned my ankle.... fell... and broke my arm. That was a year ago this month, haven't put on heels since. I wear pant suits and tie shoes ever since.

Funny, when we were young and trying to learn how to walk in high heels, it seems time reverses itself now and we are once again trying to learn to walk in high heels :P

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