Five years ago, my father passed away. Since then my mother has not taken very good care of herself. It started slowly and not in very obvious ways. Over the years, different habits have surfaced...for instance, instead of saving her $ to pay for and make sure she has all of medications she needs, she takes and goes on weekends away with the "girls". Another good example, she lives in Senior Living (Government financial assisted living), yet because she is unwilling to give up total independence, she takes out a loan for a new car!!! I grant you, it's a new used car at $300 a month in payments that she can't afford!!!
When I say anything that sounds remotely like I might suggest my sister take over as total POA (she currently only has POA over medical), my sister gets very defensive. She says things like "Our mother is 75 years old...she needs to set up a budget that she can live with in and stick to it". I counter with "She has made sevreal budgets up for herself over the years and has not once stuck with them!"
Bottom line I need help getting my sister and I on the page about our mother. My sister is 10 years older than my self and therefore has been given more of the responsibilty over Mom's care. That was by my parents choice while Dad was still alive and I don't have a problem with their decision.
I have so much to say, I could ramble on for hours. If anyone out there has even so much as an incling of how I am feeling, please let me know.