I've been visiting my mom (who is at home w 24/7 care) 2-3 times a week. I live in NYC, so I spend a lot of time on the subway getting there and back. I was going to take her out to dinner tonight, but I'm not feeling well and am supposed to be going away this weekend.
I'm really the only one who visits her regularly and gets her out of the house. Her friends have passed away and other family lives far away. Her boyfriend visits every other week; he lives an hour and a half away and is 85 and my daughters see her when they can.
She is not the least bit interested in an adult daycare program, btw. So my visits are really the only thing that break up her week and she checks in with me all the time to review when I'm going to come.
So of course I feel guilty and like I should just force myself to go, even though I'm home from work today and feeling under the weather. I know many of us have been there. I just hate thinking of her alone for days on end. She has aides, but they don't really socialize.