Grossed out and need to vent—I just caught Mom using my toothbrush to comb her hair!

Enlighten me, Mina. Did my post strike a nerve? Is that why you felt you needed to call me out by name for correction? Because you didn't *like my post?

Pretty lengthy response to the remark of an anonymous stranger.

Jen I tried posting last night but it would not let me. I haven't heard from bobbie yet and yes Michigan is starting to get snow. Parts of the Upper Peninsula are going to get 8" around here it has been mainly rain BUT the white stuff will be coming next week. Hugs
luvCuz

Thank you, cwillie. In 2 sentences you've captured my exact experience on AC, starting with this thread (exactly like you)......and stated it perfectly (esp. for this thread....lol)..... 
Last Saturday was the 1 year anniversary of my lovely Mom's death......and she had a sense of humor that rivaled no one......it ranged from innocent to bawdy and was often self-deprecating and sharp.....but it was always on target, never mean-spirited.....and no one who knew her was exempt......
In fact, almost all of my best memories of Mom involve her sharp observations of fellow humans and the "human condition" (she was a newspaper journalist for many years) and her hilarious take on same.....I am proud to say we enjoyed many ribald laughter sessions.....
Perhaps Christine should consider bobbie's own background and experience and read more "than a few posts" before casting judgment on a thread that's still going after 8 years.....

Gallows humour, if you can't say s**t when you have a mouthful then I don't know when else you can. Even though I've never participated in it this is the thread that brought me to AgingCare many years ago.

Christine, it is a way for many people to relieve some of their stress.

When I see my mother do things like that, it reminds me how vulnerable she is, and my instinct is to protect...not blab on the internet about how "gross" it is!

After reading a few posts, I'm just going to say it. It disgusts me and makes me want to cry that you people are basically poking fun at your profoundly ill parents. How ugly and disrespectful! I'm sorry you're so "grossed out" by your own mother. I wish I had never found this post. You're fortunate enough to have your parents with you. My mom lives in a nursing home!!! I'm going to try to forget this thread is here.

He's not dead. Money is gone in January and the lawyer will do the paper work to get him on Medicaid. Mom doesn't want to move in winter, so who knows. lawyer asked does he look like he is close to dying? Bud, he's been "dying" for ten years... Only dead is dead. My new catch all phrase.
Is Bobbie doing O.K.
Saw Michigan might be getting early snow....

sorry no jokes but just wondering how everybody is doing. We are just very wet here in Michigan. Over 5 1/2" of rain so far. Basement is wet but fans and towels are drying it up.
Hugs to all
luvCuz

Hoping Bobbi is safe too.

Thanks Linda, hoping bobbie is safe too! Let us know cuz.

linda I have emailed bobbie but haven't heard back. She is probably busy moving boats inland away from the storm surge. If I hear from her I will keep everyone on the thread up on what I find out. I know my youngest has a home just north of Fort Meyers on I believe Pinebay Island but the live here in Michigan. They have hurricane insurance but still doesn't help with what you loose. Thanks for wondering about bobbie. Hugs your way
LuvCuz

cuz / thinking of bobbie , hope she and her boat and kitty be safe ...

oh i hope the fires are put out for good . last year the tennesee were in flames . horrible !! i need to go t o the store and stock up on food , hurricanes heading for florida , worried about my brother and his families , prayers for the whole usa ,,
i used to live in apartment for 8 yeARS , WASNT BAD at all , good neighbors good people . some apartment has sh*&y ass people and punks , hope you and mom find a good place .. love you all and hugs !! blessing caregivers .. oh i dreamt about my pa , i forgot all about him and left him in bed soiled and hungry ! lord ! i think i dream that cuz of texas nursing homes leaving old people in bed and wheelchair while the water rise and drowned them .... bad news and gawd awful dream , i woke up and said oh dad you know i would never forget you and your sausage and gravy , wink ,,, i hope he s eating well up at the golden gate ,, xoxo

Hey Lindaheart. Still alive here, covered in smoke. Forest fires and wild fires, still, I won't trade with Houston though that is awful. life changing awful. Like New Orleans I bet there are people there who don't come back. If we sell the house we will move into an apartment and hope the proceeds last longer than he does...I have never lived in an apartment, still better than homeless, which might come if he does live longer than the proceeds... (96 now, why?) grandma has been gone ten years now. And it feels like it. Hope you are doing O.K. there....Love Jen

thinking of you all , jsomebody im so sorry for what youre dealing with and now selling the house what the hell ! where will you and ur mom go ?
i am doing ok , hubby is fine . labor day weekend here . hope you all get to enjoy it , am sick to my stomach about texas , and heard about the nursing home situations , not good !
meanwhile and cuz ,, sending you cyber hugs xoxo

He's still not dead. We will be selling the house by November at this rate...Jen

I am not at all impressed either.

Anything to brighten up a bad day is a good day for me. Hugs to all.
luvCuz

Thanks for the jokes Cuz,

Senior Wedding at the Villages, Florida


Two very active seniors (Jacob, age 92, and Mary, age 89), living in The Villages, are all excited about their decision to get married. They go for a stroll to discuss the wedding, and on the way they pass a drugstore. Jacob suggests they go in.
Jacob addresses the man behind the counter: Are you the owner?"
pharmacist answers, "Yes."
Jacob: "We're about to get married. Do you sell heart medication?"
Pharmacist: "Of course we do."

Jacob: "How about medicine for circulation?"
Pharmacist: "All kinds"
Jacob: "Medicine for rheumatism?"
Pharmacist: "Definitely."
Jacob: "How about suppositories and medicine for impotence?"

Pharmacist: "You bet!"
Jacob: "Medicine for memory problems, arthritis and Alzheimer's?"
Pharmacist: "Yes, a large variety. The works."
Jacob: "What about vitamins, sleeping pills, Geritol, antidotes for Parkinson's disease?"

Pharmacist: "Absolutely."
Jacob: "Everything for heartburn and indigestion?"
Pharmacist: "We sure do."
Jacob: "You sell wheelchairs and walkers and canes?"
Pharmacist: "All speeds and sizes."
Jacob: "Adult diapers?"
Pharmacist: "Sure, how can I help you?
Jacob: "We'd like to use this store as our Bridal Registry."

Rest Your Mind

I know you have been laying awake at
night wondering why baby diapers have
Brand names such as "Luvs", "Huggies",
and "Pampers", while
undergarmets for old people are
called "Depends".
Well here is the lowdown on the
whole thing.
When Babies crap in their pants, people
are still gonna Luv'em, Hug'em and
Pamper'em. When old people crap in
their pants,
it "Depends" on who is in the will!
Glad I got that straightened out so you

Can Rest Your Mind

AN AVID GOLFER


An avid golfer was involved in a terrible car crash and was rushed to the hospital. Just before he was put under, the surgeon popped in to see him.

"I have some good news and some bad news," says the surgeon. "The bad news is that I have to remove your right arm!"

"Oh God no!" cries the man. "My golfing is over! Please Doc, what's the good news?"

"The good news is...... I have another one to replace it with, but it's a woman's arm and I'll need your permission before I can go ahead with the transplant."

"Go for it doc," says the man, "as long as I can play golf again."

The operation went well and a year later the man was out on the golf course when he bumped into the surgeon.

"Hi, how's the new arm?" asks the surgeon.

"Just great," says the golfer. "I'm playing the best golf of my life. My new arm has a much finer touch, and my putting has really improved."

"That's great," said the surgeon. "Not only that," continued the golfer, "my handwriting has improved, I've learned how to sew my own clothes and I've even taken up painting landscapes in watercolors."

"That’s unbelievable!" said the surgeon, "I'm so glad to hear the transplant was such a great success. Are you having any side effects?"

"Well, just two, said the golfer, "I have trouble parallel parking, and every time I get an erection I also get a headache.

Happy Mothers Day to all you beautiful caregivers both past and present. Hugs to all and like a friend of mine says loveyalater.
LuvCuz.

It's just hard taking care of an adult, that's now more like a infant. And, it's not like taking care of an infant. They are not only bigger, but often much more disagreeable. I'm sure a lot of it is frustration, with not being able to do things they used to do. Doesn't make it an easy stage of life.

Visiting my mom and me finding a poop filled pull-up when I took her to the bathroom to pee, having to run out and get help to clean her up. ...Writing this now it seems so trivial...
I guess whats bothering me is that I cannot recall the visit, just the poop :(

I haven't talked to her in quite awhile but as far as I know she is doing alright. Just probably busy with the start of summer and everyone trying to get boats in the water etc. Thanks for asking though because even thoughts count now days. Hugs
luvCuz.

Thanks cuz and meanwhile.
It is what it is only less so. He is moving toward bed ridden, but who knows. And no one can shame me with he's your grandfather. I cleaned up the porn and feed and cleaned up after him enduring years of perverted looks and comments! Oh and for fifty dollars a month. mm.
cuz is bobbie doing O.K.?

Hang in there Jen. Boy, I'm starting to feel the same about my mother. She is critical of everything. Barely gets out of her recliner, everything is such a struggle with her. At least my sister helps out, that really gives me a break. And I know people are going to say, try to remember she's your mother, and your supposed to love her. It's hard, my mother has always been self centered and mean. If anything she is less crazy in her 80's than she's ever been.

Sorry to hear about G Jen. Thoughts are with you.
Nice hearing from you also meanwhile. Hugs to all.
luvCuz