My grandmother has been living at my mother's house since July (my grandfather died in June and he was the only reason she was able to stay in her home) she has had several strokes and also suffers from dementia.
I care for my grandmother while my mom is at work (I am a stay at home mom with a 2 year old and I am pregnant) and then my mom cares for her at night. My grandmother has outbursts of anger out of nowhere and has tried to hit me, has tried to throw her tray of food, tried to get out of her chair to come after me across the room etc. She has outbursts w/my mom, but has never tried to hit her. I am not sure if she still sees me as a child and that she is trying to discipline me or what the reason is behind it.
It has gotten really hard lately, because there are a lot of days where I don't want to be around her. I used to look forward to spending time with her and we were very close. Now I am just going through the motions. I also worry about caring for her the further along I get in my pregnancy, and I am also taking care of my 2 year old while I am taking care of her.
I know my attitude sucks sometimes, but it is like everything she does drives me crazy. She will pick her teeth for hours, she had one break off a couple of weeks ago and I am afraid she is going to do it again. Some mornings when I get her out of bed she won't cooperate. Just sits there staring at me. I tell her it is time to get up and she just shakes her head and won't even make an attempt. Then when I leave the room she gets up out of the bed on her own and she is a major fall risk and needs assistance getting out of bed, walking etc. I am just so glad I found this website so I can vent and read what other people are going through.
It is also frustrating because it seems like sometimes she can control her behavior. People from the church visit her and she is friendly and talkative and doesn't act up. Then an hour after they leave she is back in dementia land. I just needed to vent this morning.