She turns the electric braker off.It's for the whole trailer park. So i can't put a lock on it. She is going in my room picking my lock pooping in my bed and then blowing up when i ask her to not do that again. I put locks on doors and stuff . She busts them.
She thinks i am stealing off her said i am sick in the head and blows up at me. She tries to throw hands. I retreat to my room. Or the car and just let her scream it out. The neighbour lady followed me around the laundry mat and gas station bothering me.She has meds that help her but she doesn't want to take them. The nurse told her she doesn't have to take them.
She moves my bed and makes it uncomfortable because she is looking for something with a flashlight . She paces around for hours slams doors and gets mad if i ask her to stop. I talked to the dr and a nurse and was scolded and told i am the problem.
If the trailer is not yours and is Grandma's instead, you need to move out.
What is your financial situation? Are you still in school, or are you a working adult? What about your parents, are they involved with your grandma?
You have to get the insurance in place FIRST, then start calling facilities, in my state they can take over (have their own Dr & RNs) for doctors that are MIA. Some facilities will help with Medicaid enrollment, start searching online. It's sad but a common story according to Trualta, our local caregiver support organization. Those orgs can help, search your county & local APS for info. Eliminate anyone who enables the abuse, they will undermine you every step of the way. Three of my neighbors have died because of caregiving, the others have PTSD (me too + autoimmune disease) we MUST put ourselves FIRST or suffer the consequences. I'm an Army vet, and truth be told...going to war was easier than THIS.
Have you tried calling social services for your county to see what options there may be? You should video her behaviors, take pictures, keep a journal of things she does. Maybe getting APS or a social worker involved will be the start of a long-term solution for her.
"She has meds that help her but she doesn't want to take them. The nurse told her she doesn't have to take them."
This makes it seem like she may have a history of mental illness of some sort. Her telling you that taking the meds is option is an obvious lie. But, you cannot force her to take the meds so a solution is all on you: find another place to live if you are living in her residence.
More details would be helpful: how old is she, how old are you? Is it her trailer or yours? Are you living there to "care" for her?
What are the meds she is supposed to take? This will give us an idea of what her illness is.
Other than moving out, the most you can do is call 911 the next time she is unhinged and screaming and tell them there is something wrong with her (like an untreated UTI and that she is not cooperating with care) and hope they are able to take her to the ER. There they might be able to do a 5150 hold on her ("social admit" or Baker Act hold for people with mental health issues). Then it's possible you follow to the ER and ask to talk to a social worker, showing them the videos and pictures and asking. From there I'm not sure what they might do, since it all varies widely based up state, county and hospital.
But even if you can't afford it, you should still try looking for a different place to live. Call local churches and ask around. Consider a shelter. Couch surf with a relative or friend. Anything to get away.
I feel like everybody blames me.Somehow i am supposed to stop her from moving furniture .
The one thing you can't do is fix her. She doesn't want help and she's either mentally ill, demented, or both. Neither has a cure and you will not be able to get her to change her behavior. The only solution is one of you has to move out.
Use your phone to document what she's doing, either in the moment or take copious pictures and videos after the fact.
Once you are gone and safe ask APS to check on a vulnerable adult.
At this point she needs trained professionals to look after her. Call Adult Protective Services and explain the problem. Your goal should be to move out to a safer place and have your own life.
I'm very sorry for your situation.
Best of luck to you.