tonight on mailonline ( brit paper ) . an article about a woman slowly losing her husband to vascular dementia. appropriately her final thoughts were for more support for family caregivers. In my own experience a normal mind is nearly broken in the process of caring for an unsound mind. in the phsyc business when a person enters a stress unit for mental discrepancies its common knowlege to try to locate the spouse or carer because somewhere there is someone as equally bent. in the case of mental illness in a spouse its advised by many different medical and government journals to divorce the mentally ill spouse lest you lose your own sanity. you aint gonna rationalize with them, thats the only thing that IS guaranteed.